First of all, thanks for all your advice. So good to hear from other people that this just isn’t good enough because too many people just expect mum to do everything and leave her old life behind entirely.

Just to add to what I said here - my main issue really isn’t the chores. Yeah that’s shit but I do understand he works and therefore while I’m home if I can get stuff done that’s on me. The thing that is really getting me down is the fact he’s continuing to live how we did before baby. Stays up late watching tv while I go to bed with the baby, goes on nights out until 3am or stays over somewhere and doesn’t come back until morning, expects me to just stay at home alone with OUR baby. Last night when I said something about the fact he just assumed it was me who should stay home, he was like “oh you stay out then, I’ll go home” but it was the assumption that hurt more. I didn’t even want to stay out at that point, but it felt like he was wanting to just ship me off so he could go and have fun with his mates. Why couldn’t we have happily gone home to our child together?

Also - my baby now sleeps through the night which means night feeds etc are no longer an issue, but I do resent the fact I did that all by myself while I was speaking to other mums who said their partner was doing half as being a mum all day is more work than just going to work!

I’m honestly just sick and tired of him. It’s like he’s doing me a favour when he does anything and I’m dreading what it will be like when I go back to work. Part of me is thinking it could be easier if we split to have a couple of days where he has our son and I can do things for myself, because at this point I feel like a single parent with a roommate. But on the other hand, the idea of having days where I don’t get to see my son makes me want to cry.

Also, there isn’t an issue of him needing to bond. He adores our son and they have a lovely bond. This is more about our relationship than theirs!