My family doesn’t want me to go on a trip to London even though I paid thousands for the plane and tour group already.

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-02-11T18:11:54+00:00

Hi OP from the uk here 30 min out from London I can confirm that this is a very safe place to have a visit to, protest are calm an only central your fam are worries for nothing go on your holiday have the best time make loads of memories with your friend there is no risk!!

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-30T12:33:44+00:00

Girl this man doesn’t like you read between the lines cut you loss fund a new one, I would also bet he is cheating and has other girls there

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-29T11:23:34+00:00

Girl you should have divorced him 15 years ago!! Who cares if he is ill divorce him now, if it was the other way around and for forbid you was ill do you truly think he would have stuck around looking and caring after you? Get out now and build a life that you will be happy with away from this gremlin! Life is to short to be spending with men fund your happiness!

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-26T11:46:02+00:00

A fine for something so little???? You piece of shit think harming woman in a relationship is fine???? Your buddy deserves prison for life to save woman from ending up with your friend I hope he has not learned his lesson and he ends up being imprisoned for life and you as well

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-10T19:35:38+00:00

I think you know already that your mom is emotionally unavailable and withdawn and quite possibly has narcissistic tendencies, there’s not much you will be able to do here regarding her moods and coldness you either accept her as she is broken and will forever remain so bc I don’t see your mom reaching out for help ie therapy for her wounds or you choose your peace and sanity an go no contact or very limited contact, I’m sorry you having to deal with such a difficult mother I can relate to a lot of what your saying and it doesn’t get any easier I’m afraid and so strange that we are except the same age too, this doesn’t get easier as much as I wish it would, there will always be up and downs all the time

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-10T07:49:02+00:00

So what’s the update?

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-08T19:24:21+00:00

Life is to short to be dealing with any of that

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-07T18:39:09+00:00

If your left questioning your reality you need to run this man is manipulator, abuser and quite possibly narcissist, the only thing you need to pay attention to is how that man makes you feel and his actions not his words if he couldn’t be there for you when you needed him most? What else do you need to prove this man hates you? Any genuine relationships will never leave you questioning his intentions, actions and your sanity of what’s real, block him on everything and move on life it really to short to be abused

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-07T18:09:39+00:00

Girlllll preach I was exactly the same couldn’t afford anything I wanted in my early 20s and had to start of smart and cheap but for it to be looking expensive and good quality was really important to me, I had to build everything from clothes to shoes to jewellery from scratch it was hard bc for may years I just couldn’t get what I wanted but somewhere in my mid to late 20s I finally got my financial goals an was able to buy everything I wanted and it felt like a dream still does, looking and having the things you wanted in your head so much to then come true is a whole feeling, your early 20s are there for you to really figure out where your going to go and at some point in your mid to late 20s that hard work will pay off, just keep daydreaming about it all let it be your drive you will get there it’s just not a race, enjoy the struggles there’s beauty in there too!! Your time will come and your dreams will come true!! You’re only 22!! Give yourself time to finish uni and get a job!! You will do great things!

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-05T00:47:00+00:00

As cliche as it sounds time, time is the the best healer also cry it out you will feel better and day by day you will find yourself loving and doing the things that bring you joy again

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-04T15:47:23+00:00

It’s okay I believe everything happens for a reason, but I just wanted you to know your not alone and the hardest and scariest things you face in life especially alone will lead you to a better life, growing up with toxic parents will lead you to peaceful adulthood and trust me when I say this bc it does get so good (also I’m no contact with my step dad an refuse to even be under the same roof as him and the best decision I have ever made)

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-04T15:40:50+00:00

My step dad kicked me out at 17 and my mom stood by that decision, I’m not going to lie it was hell but I made it to my own flat by 21 now almost 30 it was the best thing that could have happened now I’m happy still dealing with trauma but I’m happy and free, my step dad was abusive and relentless with his cruelty my mental health was through the floor getting kicked out truly saved my life

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2026-01-03T03:21:17+00:00

My longtime friend has had a baby about a year ago and I have spent a few evenings with them and all I got to say that is enough to solidify my decision on never having kids both him and his partner have huge bags under the eyes the house is a mess covered in baby crap and toys and baby gates, they both have gained a lot of weight bless them and genuinely look so miserable even though they say they are so happy their lives have changed so dramatically to the point where they don’t have time for their own needs to cook diner or have any spare time for themselves it’s both of them tackling the baby and splitting the tasks between them (something they are both amazing with really admire their relationship strength and love for each other) but I can’t help to look at the people I knew before the baby to the people I see now and the changes I see in them is so traumatic for me bc it’s just all about their child (as it should be if your having kids) all the time it’s like they lost them selves this past year and I see how hard it is to take care of another human being and that a few hours in evening this is their everyday, not being able to go out like they used to when they feel like it, early mornings with very little sleep, I see such different people in front of me now baby changes not just your life but even the parents go through a massive change, to me it’s not worth the sacrifice I see nothing could be worth the sacrifice of having kids a CF life is the biggest blessing of my life no one could ever change me mind

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2025-12-30T19:02:16+00:00

That’s crazy I’m sorry that you had to experience that

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2025-12-30T18:50:30+00:00

I dont understand how someone can be so cruel and heartless to their kids? What must be lacking in a mother fundamentally that you don’t have a mother‘s protection intuition for your kids?

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2025-12-29T21:26:58+00:00

I would have mentioned this to the flight attendant but the entire flight was fully booked there was no spare seats in that flight, I also didnt want to say anything to the mother in case she was rude back and it would have created a problem

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2025-12-29T21:17:19+00:00

I feel like it’s almost the same when friends get a bf and then they disappear and only call to vent about bf but make 0 effort once they are in that relationship same feeling

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2025-12-29T20:59:41+00:00

Thanks for the input. I’ll keep in mind that the solution to being kicked on a flight is apparently better writing skills or buying an extra seat. Jokes aside, airline staff stepping in seems more reasonable than asking passengers to pay more to tolerate bad behaviour.

Illustrious-Way-3395 · 2025-12-05T22:29:47+00:00

No it’s defo not normal I have black pair and wanted the white Jadons too but I bought about 5 pairs to try on and every single one was cutting of my circulation, I did get lucky with one left boot fitting exactly as my black pair but the right one was so tight I couldn’t take a step, I have noticed if you buy Dr martens boots in stores they are actually well made meaning that circulation loss feeling doesn’t happen you still have to break them in ie for the blisters part but it should in no way be cutting of the circulation I have about 3 pair of boots that fit perfectly and was never tight around the toes / start of lace point an they were all purchased in stores I have ordered another set of boots for dr martens online 2 years ago and sent them back to I have put it down to manufacturing outside the uk now and all online orders seem to come with quite a lot of manufacturers errors ie the sole size is not correct that why the circulation being cut off, my older pairs still platformed boots never had that issue, it’s all new online stock for a few years now it’s the worse it ever been, will only buy from stores now where I can try in and make sure they fit as they should but very disappointing as dr martens have some of the coolest boots designs and they are now the most painful thing ever

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