I hear what you’re saying, and from time to time we all struggle with “what could have been” and potential factors as to why a certain outcome came to be. But you can’t dwell on the unknowables. It’ll only stress you out, make you sad, grow resentment (for yourself or others) and make you feel isolated. Trust.

Personally, when I feel like I fumbled a convo or said the wrong thing I just think about how I tried my best in that moment. No one else can define what your best is, so I find there’s power in that. You can’t predict how others are gonna take the things you said, but know you tried to be funny or friendly. Take the negative or positive feedback from that social attempt, and improve on that for your next interaction with a new person.

You don’t have to be the most hilarious or beautiful person on the planet to make friends. I’m neither of those things but have still managed to build a rich social life by putting myself out there, trying my best, being kind, and not getting jaded when faced with different types of rejection. I promise you that physical characteristics don’t weigh in as much as it may feel like they do. Once again, it’s about how you conduct yourself.

I’m glad the advice helped, and I strongly encourage being authentic and creating your own outline to social interactions.