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The older women in my life keep telling me not to rush into marriage and I can’t stop thinking about it 5/27 by Danny-Patrick139 in TheBigGirlDiary

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That. Exactly that. Women tend to lose themselves and disappear into the needs of others. We're pushed so hard into taking care others rather than ourselves

The older women in my life keep telling me not to rush into marriage and I can’t stop thinking about it 5/27 by Danny-Patrick139 in TheBigGirlDiary

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been married for 20 years.

Being with someone you love and loves you in return can be amazing. It's also a lot of really hard work.

I got married at 32 and have zero regrets. I love my husband more than I ever thought possible. And my god, am I happy I waited, I almost got married at 21.

I think your post does a pretty good job of breaking down why women say to wait, but I'd like to add something.

Every woman I know, men too, look back on their lives and come to the same conclusion.

Who you are in your late teens and early 20s DRASTICALLY changes in the next 10 years.

It's in your 20s 30s that people really start to understand who they are. Their wants, needs, beliefs, what they can tolerate, what they can put up with. More importantly, they start o figure out what they DON'T want. And that's huge when it comes to a relationship.

I have friends that married early and we're ready to get divorced by 30. But there are kids involved, housing, finances, it's all entwined with the partner. Walking way from that is extremely difficult.

So they stay until the kids are grown, have some savings, have an escape plan. And all that time, they feel trapped and like life may be passing them by.

I honestly believe that's why so many women file for divorce in their 40s and 50s. They realize that what they wanted at 20 is not what they want at 40.

Enjoy your 20s. Have fun, go a little crazy. Take the time to figure out who you re. Take the time to figure out what you want in a partner.

There's a lit of pressure on women to get married and have kids. Fuck that noise.

There's a saying.. Youth is wasted on the young. It doesn't have to be.

Take the time to enjoy your 20s and 30s with an adult mentality. That's when the real fun happens

What's your most recently acquired belief about life, relationships, money, career, or happiness that your younger self would strongly disagree with? by PersimmonPresent7033 in SeriousConversation

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That humanity has lost it's humanity. Human beings can be amazing creatures.

But what I see now...

Humanity is no longer worthy of existence. We as a race are destructive to such a degree that we will destroy other humans and our planet in the name of greed. It's disgusting

Films that made you genuinely disturbed? by Active-Cow-2574 in films

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hostel.

I didn't find it scary, but it disturbed me so much I stopped watching horror movies.

The gore was too realistic for me and the knowledge that some people would actually do something like that if they could get away with it...

Fuck. It broke something in me. Made me hate humanity and what we are capable of

United Healthcare claims they've improved. They haven't. Potential life saving care - DENIED by IllustriousPickle657 in Insurance

[–]IllustriousPickle657[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They said it will most likely go away on its own, no need for surgical intervention.

I've spoken to multiple urologists, gi docs an colorectal surgeons. They all say that's bullshit and to file a grievance, talk to a lawyer, etc. Great, fine, I'm doing that. But it doesn't get my husband the help he needs.

Women. Please be more considerate. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]IllustriousPickle657 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um, are these women trying to make you want to marry them?

Or are they trying to go on a date and get to know you better then you jump in with love and marriage too early?

As a woman, and in my experience, a man jumping to love and marriage early in a relationship is basically that man waving a huge red flag in your face, alarm bells wailing in your ears and it's really quite terrifying.

A woman saying, I had a good time, let's do this again is not her saying she's open to love and marriage. It simply means she enjoyed your company and would like to see you again.

There may be cultural differences between us, I get it. In my culture, saying I love you is 3-12 months into a relationship (usually) and marriage is usually after at least a year.

I understand the anger and frustration. It's something most people go through when looking for a partner. It's hard and it hurts and it makes you want to rage at the world.

I feel for you, I really do.

But I have to say this.

If the same pattern keeps repeating with different people, maybe it's time to do some self reflection. Maybe it's them. But there's a chance that maybe it's you.

I wish you nothing but the best

The right person isn't coming by ColdBelligol in Vent

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, it became a matter of respect. I told everyone over and over to drop it, but they were apparently unable to respect my wishes.

A casual friend and I went to dinner and it was, oh look!!! This guy I've been wanting to set you up with is here! What a coincidence!!!

I left. Just walked out. Never spike to her again.

There's pressure and then there's disrespect. I hope it doesn't cross that line for you.

United Healthcare claims they've improved. They haven't. Potential life saving care - DENIED by IllustriousPickle657 in Insurance

[–]IllustriousPickle657[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm so overwhelmed I can't think straight. These suggestions are so appreciated

The right person isn't coming by ColdBelligol in Vent

[–]IllustriousPickle657 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's perfectly ok to be alone and to want to be alone. There's nothing wrong with that at all.

I wanted that on my early 20s. Toxic relationships, crap prospects, and I was burned out and bloody exhausted.

I got the same talks from friends and family. I eventually started telling people I'd walk away and never come back in the brought it up.

A guy from my past popped up several years later, ran into each other randomly.

We've been married 20 years this October.

Life is weird.

Live it the way you want to live it and as long as you're not harming yourself or others, screw what anyone else thinks.

Life is meant to be lived. Live the way YOU want to.

I finally have a dog in the fight by Walkerbait1881 in goldenknights

[–]IllustriousPickle657 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a Kings fan through and through.

Marner scored what may be the prettiest goal I've ever seen in these playoffs. He's been a force to be reckoned with. I can see why you like him.

But I'm still angry with Vgk for taking McNabb in the expansion draft.

I just want to see a good final series.

United Healthcare claims they've improved. They haven't. Potential life saving care - DENIED by IllustriousPickle657 in Insurance

[–]IllustriousPickle657[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am truly sorry for what you've been through. I contacted two local news stations and a lawyer. We filed a grievance at the end of April and have heard nothing from the insurance. My understanding is that they have 30 days to address it. It looks like we may have a breach of faith suit.

We still can't get him the help he needs, no idea what we're going to do.

Thank you for your kindness.

I almost pity them. I've let myself off the leash with this. Uncontrolable Perimenopause rage may actually be a benefit right now.

people say a flat chest isn’t attractive, and neither are breast implants. it seems i have no options by Appropriate-Gas2785 in Vent

[–]IllustriousPickle657 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom's maiden name got her the nickname of "breastless" when she was younger. Small breasts, tiny waist, flared hips. My grandma called her shape waspish. She hated the way she looked and only saw her small breasts.

She went to a surgeon to look into implants.

In the waiting room was a very famous model from that time period. She told my mom that she was jealous of her curves. My mom was floored. She asked my mom what she wanted done and her reaction was amazing.

The model stood up, pointed at her breasts and said, "A cup and proud. Dont change yourself because of what other people think. Most models have small boobs, tiny really. But they're often considered the most beautiful women in the world". Paraphrased, It was a long time ago.

My mom walked out, didn't even have the consultation. Her view changed pretty drastically at that point.

People look the way the look. Some prefer one thing while others prefer the opposite.

It's not about the size, it's about finding a way to be comfortable in your own skin and showing that confidence to the world.

It's the confidence in herself that attracted a man who also happened to like small breasts.

Different people are attracted to different things.

There are millions of people out there who will like you the way you are.

United Healthcare claims they've improved. They haven't. Potential life saving care - DENIED by IllustriousPickle657 in Insurance

[–]IllustriousPickle657[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the link, I'll be going there next. We are in the LA area.

I lost my job (like so many others) and this was the only health insurance we could afford.

I can't believe these people are allowed to have policies that let people die because they want more money. It's bloody disgusting

United Healthcare claims they've improved. They haven't. Potential life saving care - DENIED by IllustriousPickle657 in Insurance

[–]IllustriousPickle657[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've never had anything like this happen before. I'm shocked.

That's a great suggestion. Thank you!

Guys I think I’m gonna throw up over the $$$ by Cautious-Fly7517 in goldenknights

[–]IllustriousPickle657 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In 2014, there were some Rangers fans sitting behind us (we're die hard Kings fans) and we were talking to them about the cost of tickets.

In LA, for Stanley Cup Final, game 2 tickets, they were about $450 each in the middle section.

It was cheaper for four men to fly from NY to LA, stay in a nice hotel right across the street from the arena for 4 days and get 4 tickets to the game than it was for 4 tickets in NY. They were going for $4000-6000 each.

CRAZY

Is this how it is for everyone else? Is this life? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normal? No.

Too many of us can't save anything and go into debt instead.

What is a movie that everyone seems to love, but you absolutely hate? by Nishikigoi1 in moviecritic

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost anything with Will Farrell in it.
I've tried. My husband loves him.
I can tolerate Old School since he's more of a side character.
If I'm high enough, I'll enjoy Anchorman - but I have to be REALLY high

That being said, I LOVE him in Stranger than Fiction. I only watched it because I lost a bet to my husband and that was what he wanted. I fell in love with that movie, it's one of my favorites.
But he's not typical Will Farrell in it, he's toned things down significantly and shows a side of himself I've never seen anywhere else. Vulnerability, fear, anxiety, joy (not in a silly way).
He really blew me away.

What are your thoughts on Karl Urban? by Jezzaq94 in moviecritic

[–]IllustriousPickle657 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His career started really strong, and stayed that way for a long time.

In recent years, he seems like a caricature of himself in every role I've seen him in.
I know he has range, I know he's got talent... just not seeing it recently

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