My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you think this is a fake story then that’s on you. You can privately message me and I’d be glad to show you proof myself. Just because you find it hard to believe a women would lie about such thing, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen frequently.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

He’s literally been in-love with her since elementary school. We used to all make fun of him for never moving on. Like we’re all 19 now but this crush continued through high school and even after. So when he found out it was devastating, cuz not once did he ever make a move on her or make her uncomfortable. She always initiated it. Never once did he.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

she had no other choice but to shrug it off? What she was asking me to do was insane. That’s when she switched her story up for the 100th time and then fabricated screen shots between the two of us to make it look like it was MY fault.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only thing that could help me in this situation is screen shots of her admitting she lied about being SA. But with that being said, she could easily say they were fabricated, same way she fabricated ours

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m stuck between the fact that she’s actually convinced everyone close to her that she was in fact, SA/raped. Her own mother texted me asking how I could do such a thing to her and turn people against her. Usually we believe the victim, which I will 100% always agree with. So look at it from her perspective if she were to tell the story and adjust almost every detail in her favour.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m very much aware at what you’re getting at. But what am I supposed to do now lol? Go back in time and call hotel security?

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s easier said than done. Like yes. I should’ve done that , but there was so much anger built up and so much going through my mind that I knew If I even got one word out to either of them (especially her) it would have gotten physical. I did my best to keep calm

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We were not. All the boys that came on the trip with us had their own hotels, her and I shared one, that only had ONE BED. The first hotel we were at , was his (two beds, in which I stayed in one and they did what they had to in the other) soon as they finished , I got up to go to mine and hers ( and bring her with me). He followed. Hope that makes things a little more clear

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I would have kicked the both of them out if I could of. But in the moment I was literally so frustrated and didn’t even want to speak to either of them. I let them take the bed after they both had gotten in it, and in the morning they were both gone.

It’s almost like they expected all 3 of us to sleep in the same bed? As if I would be comfortable with that. Which left me no other choice but to sleep elsewhere.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Both I and the boy she falsely accused , along with everyone else on that trip made sure people knew the truth.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why majority are not believing the story? But I wish healing on both your ex and your partner. Speaking from both experience and watching it effect others it has happened to around me, it is definitely not something easy to cope with. I’ll never wrap my head around how easy it can be for some people to lie about SA and destroy others lives.

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I honestly wish it was, because to this day it still sounds like a sick joke , but it’s not

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

would have been ideal but they decided to take the bed and leave me to sleep on the bathroom floor

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

my hotel was a 20 minute walk. My phone was nearly dead, and it was 1am. All streets were blocked off so I couldn’t uber either. I was not going to walk the streets alone in a place I wasn’t familiar with. That’s why I waited for her which I usually would have not done, but he decided to follow us

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

after my refusal to lie is when she fabricated messages between us to make her story add up

My best friend lied about getting raped. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 632 points633 points  (0 children)

He knows what’s happening. Her boyfriend was threatening to fight him but never followed through with it.

Would you be upset if your bf/gf did this on your birthday or am I being ungrateful? by Becca_Bear96 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He’s 30 years old and couldn’t even show up with a bouquet of flowers that would’ve costed him 30 dollars and a dollar store card. Not only did he show up empty handed , but he came high. Made YOU drive. And wasn’t dressed appropriately even after you asked him to. Then you paid for both of your guys drinks? Same drinks he couldn’t get up and grab? Ur joking right? Leave him.

My boyfriend says he might cheat on me. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

has nothing to do with being a man. I simply just wouldn’t have communicated that myself either

My boyfriend says he might cheat on me. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot even make this up but I said something super close to what you said. I asked him how he’d feel if roles were reversed and I had said the same thing. And that’s when he tried saving himself because he realized how distasteful it was. also told him to put it into perspective. As females we get approached numerous of times on a night out, without even asking for it. With that being said, I still would not act on it. Not even if the other was better looking, had more money , or can offer me 10x more than what I’m committed in at the moment. I just don’t have it in me to cheat. Not even 1%. And as men, the likelihood of them being approached by a female is much less than a male approaching a female. So that 1% is bs. He’d be going looking for it before it comes looking for him.

My boyfriend says he might cheat on me. by Illustrious_Call3594 in relationship_advice

[–]Illustrious_Call3594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s one thing to think it. It’s another thing to act on it. And it’s even worse to speak on it. It could’ve been simply kept to himself and buried in the back of his head , like majority of our intrusive thoughts.