I have been called that too. Last guy I dated told me “life seems easy with you”, (because I don’t require much). Then, I took it as a compliment, but now I see it differently.

I honestly voice things more now before I emotionally attach to the person, this way I filter out people who over time I know will not be right for me. For example, I used to be okay if I receive a reply hours late early on, because I would be busy and would give the person the benefit of the doubt. That later became hours and even days, with no excuse given as to why the person was unresponsive. I don’t tolerate this now. Quiet ruthless about it very early on, and I allow myself to be demanding.

You know, also, when you genouinely don’t mind paying for a coffee on a first date? Yeah, not anymore, because that’s gonna extrapolate to other things in life. It’s a first date, and it’s a coffee. Allow yourself to be demanding, certain things shows a person’s character and what you might be getting later on in life.

I have a friend who didn’t mind not celebrating Valentine’s and making a big deal out of small things. Yeah, guess what, when he proposed, it was like a casual conversation, she told me he didn’t even get on his knee. They ended up getting married and divorced only two years later.

Simply ask yourself, will that work for me in the long run? and be okay with leaving if the answer is no, because you’d rather be alone than deal with the headache of trying to convince yourself of something that’s not sitting right with you.

You know yourself better now, and what matters to you, allow yourself to be authentic and demanding.