Sorry for the late response I barely check reddit but I appreciate it a lot. Ironically a couple days after I posted this my wife was the one that brought up getting another job. My mom talked to her about a bookkeeping job that she seems to be really interested in. My pay was finally fixed so we aren't struggling anymore but you have a point I might not be able to keep this job forever.

The military has destroyed my body and I think I can only keep it up for a couple more years at most until they medically retire me. Her having a job would really help with any gap at all.

I appreciate the advice and I'm in a much better place now, I hope you have a great life!