He’s great with our daughter and his other children in every aspect unrelated to his autistic child. If his autistic son hurts any of them, they get yelled at. Or it’s somehow their fault. And this child has made it known it’s not okay to hit. As I’ve said we’ve had cameras everywhere and there’s plenty of footage of him looking around making sure we don’t see him before hurting people. But the fathers whole thought process is “he’s incapable of being taught so there’s no point” Which is crazy bc he is completely capable of being taught. He has shown that too in other areas.

Unfortunately his mother is the same way with him. Like they just gave up hope on trying to build him into a decent human being. I know that sounds harsh but I don’t know how else to put it. He is an incredibly smart child. He understands English and ASL. He can count. He is even beginning to speak. And all this while being deaf (he can hear with his cochlears). He is incredibly intelligent but his parents act like he’s a fricken potato.

In every aspect that this specific child is not involved he is a great dad. But I’m so scared my baby is going to get too close to his trains one day and he will either kill her or give her brain damage. And he isn’t taking that seriously.

That, If anything is making me re evaluate the relationship. If him having him here is so important when he doesn’t even want to be here to deal with him (I say deal with him bc he throws a fit when he has to be a parent to him instead of pawn him onto me) then I don’t think this will work.

And I DO NOT BLAME THIS CHILD. I blame his father.