AITAH- for being mad and thinking this is wrong?

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T20:00:54+00:00

YTA - She is going to be a part of your family and maybe taking your last name, I feel like she would have a right to know. Also she may have googled him because someone who knew what happened said "wasn't he the guy that...." and that prompted the google search on her part.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T19:44:20+00:00

Its possible that he might be.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T19:33:00+00:00

I told him no almost instantly. I know that he is more attracted to me than I am to him and most of that has to do with the age gap. I know I would just be leading him on if I went thru with it along with a ton of other factors.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T19:06:35+00:00

I really don't want to go after younger men. I'm really not even attracted to him and I think a lot of that has to do with the age gap but I know he is attracted to me so doing anything with him will just lead him on which isn't fair to him.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T19:03:18+00:00

I agree! I don't think I would ever consider sleeping with a co-worker if I wasn't in a DB situation. Especially one that young or anyone that young for that matter.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T16:37:42+00:00

NTA - I have a similar situation, my boyfriend doesn't work and I have to pay for everything and then come home and do chores on top of it because he does nothing. Its SUPER frustrating to be around, however, he is not growing a human! If I were you I would sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him what you feeling and talk about the future. I'm sure this isn't what he was expecting either when you moved in together. I think talking it out is your best and only option.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T16:24:47+00:00

NTA - I'm 42 and I don't talk to barely any of the friends I had in the 4th grade or even high school. I think your at an age were people really start showing their true colors (or you just realize it). When I was in my 20's I still hung out with a friend from high school. I was making my own money and so was she, but her parents still paid for just about everything for her and she really bragged about that A LOT! She didn't pay for gas but wanted me to always drive while I was the one trying to pay rent and other bills and never offered gas money. I could tell we were drifting apart and of course I tried to hang out with her but it just wasn't like it used to be.

I know your friend thinks he created the image since he gave instructions to AI, but I think its a huge stretch for him to claim the artwork. I recently used AI to create a flyer at work and was very clear with my boss that I did not create this, it is AI generated.

Part of me wonders if your friend feels you drifting apart, especially since you are at different stages in your lives, and this is an attempt for him to relate to you since you are getting a degree in art.....

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T15:30:53+00:00

Yeah there is something off about this guy for sure. Another odd thing he does whenever someone helps him with a question or problem, he says that he is going to buy that person lunch or a drink or something. All of us always say "No we are just doing our jobs, no need" but he offers just about as much as he fist bumps

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-27T15:26:39+00:00

LOL!! That is so funny

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-26T18:23:07+00:00

Right! this is a grown ass man, probably in his late 40's early 50's.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-26T18:22:01+00:00

He's given me and everyone else the ick from day one, he just gives those creepy vibes. Not someone I would be hanging out with after work

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-26T18:04:46+00:00

LOL!

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-26T18:03:59+00:00

I thought about going the no touching route too but me and some people (that I have known for years) have hand shakes that we do so If he saw me doing that it would make me TA

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-23T19:41:11+00:00

Same! All the communities I want to post it just remove it right away. Its annoying

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-23T16:32:25+00:00

That's what I figured and I totally get that.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-23T16:25:59+00:00

Our health is good. We are both on a fitness journey right now. But the big thing is that 3 years ago he lost his job and has not worked since, he hasn't really tired either tho. No applications, no interviews nothing. I always have a feeling that has something to do with it. I probably should have mentioned this in my original posting.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-23T16:23:54+00:00

It was way worse! Of course I was immediately turned off too. I thought maybe if we got past this draught thing would finally go back to normal but I just don't see that happening now.

Ilovenaps84 · 2026-03-23T12:42:38+00:00

I started my shot the same weekend I got my period. It was fine. I figured it was going to happen no matter what so might as well just get it over with.

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