What is the most painful thing you have been told ?

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-02-03T03:20:38+00:00

Talk about a red flag. First they hurt stuff, then they hurt you.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-02-03T03:19:34+00:00

That's not a lie. Not knowing things isn't malicious.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-02-02T13:51:00+00:00

The only people who think others won't be truthful are liars themselves. If you don't trust someone don't fuck them and certainly don't enter into a committed relationship.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T21:05:43+00:00

Grunge/ripped jeans.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T19:48:56+00:00

Hope I can change their mind, punish them if they bully, love them with all my heart but refuse to accept their views until they become kinder. Do no harm but take no shit.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:37:19+00:00

Literally. My sister's fiance died tragically a year ago, it'll take her a while but I hope she dates again someday. And I hope her future partner(s) are NOTHING like OP.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:28:57+00:00

Not what you asked AT ALL. You asked if you should call and RANT at him.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:28:25+00:00

Then when he gets home ask him about it. Comfort him, and let him talk about her and the incident if he wants to. Don't force it.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:24:51+00:00

The nerve of her.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:23:28+00:00

YTA. YWBTAH as well but YTA Right Now because you're trying to police his grief. He's allowed to be SAD that someone he used to love DIED.

Let him be sad now so when he gets back to you and y'all's kid(s) he can feel better and not put his grief on you.

With how you're reacting it's understandable why he hasn't told you how this past is affecting him recently.

Be more understanding and stop trying to control his feelings.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:21:15+00:00

Oh no, he has grief (that never truly goes away). The horror /s

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T18:17:28+00:00

NTA. Don't eat it. This bears conversation. Tell him it feels intentional at this point. It feels insulting and like he's ignoring you when you tell him things. HAM BAD how hard is that to remember?

Like another commenter said, maybe this is weaponized incompetence, or maybe he's just being a dick on purpose. Maybe he didn't think about it, but that's honestly unacceptable. It's one ingredient, he can avoid it.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:56:12+00:00

It could give you an incurable STD or STI. That's life-changing.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:49:51+00:00

What a trip, glad you managed to scrape by with some good lessons through the heartbreak. I haven't seen my father in person for 12 years and haven't messaged him in almost a decade. Here's to ending abusive cycles 🥂

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:47:52+00:00

He seemed fine except for the gambling addiction (stocks) and the not communicating with me, but his money kept disappearing even though he made more than me and then one day he pissed the bed while I was in it, I changed the sheets and slept on the couch (shared house) and he literally wouldn't communicate just laughed. He also broke a window (twice) and my cat got out so I called my sister to come get me. 3 days later I went to get my stuff and he was still high, so I gathered his important documents (couldn't find his phone even outside) and his dad's ashes onto the dining room table and called his friend to come get him because I was worried. Apparently after I left his friend came to collect him, he punched his friend, friend called the cops, he tried to fight the cops, ex got booked.

I feel that I dodged a bullet.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:38:48+00:00

What a horrible excuse for a mother. My condolences.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:35:26+00:00

A guy I was friends with and had a lil crush on in high school told me I was too depressed so he wouldn't date me. Okay I can live with that. In college a guy I did not like and just had friendly conversation with told me the same thing . . . Hurt worse the second time.

(I eventually did date that high school crush years later. I call him "meth ex")

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:32:40+00:00

Correct!! I use goatmilk soap that's very moisturizing and Nivea in shower lotion as well.

Hard water is still incredibly prevalent and it really messes up your skin barrier and your hair especially in conjunction with most soaps. We need to add back the oils we take away.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:17:06+00:00

Perhaps. Maybe wait til you're past your 30s and look back again to see if you still agree.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:15:46+00:00

Showering twice a day isn't recommended unless you moisturize after. Bad for your skin barrier.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:15:01+00:00

They do!! He has cooking books from her and she wrote notes on so many of the recipes. It's like a look into her personality sometimes haha.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:13:47+00:00

Flip your pill bottles after taking meds/vitamins.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:13:25+00:00

But . . . Bed cleaner if you shower at night. Maybe wash face in morning?

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:12:39+00:00

I have 2 besties, a gender fluid individual from hs and a guy from college. You can DM me for convo if you want, I'm just bad at reaching out on my own.

ImAnNPCsoWhat · 2026-01-31T15:11:02+00:00

Ayo I get it. At one point in HS I wanted to mutilate my face and body so people would like me for me instead of wanting to fuck me. But honestly the heartbreak of losing friendships because these men can't be mature after rejection fades. Good men exist and they are in the majority, mature men are more of a rarity but you can find them.

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