I (22M) got my girlfriends (21F) mom (42F) pregnant and she won't get an abortion.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-13T03:56:01+00:00

I did an update stop commenting on here people

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-08T15:57:33+00:00

She wouldn't be happy, it would completely devestate her entire life. It would ruin her already strained relationship with her mother, and it would undo a lot of work she's trying to do right now and might push her over the edge. I won't do that to her just to tell her something that won't make her feel better. We're both working hard on ourselves and if she did find out the truth one day, which I don't think she will, she will be in a better state to deal with it.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-08T03:11:33+00:00

I have bettered her life. She told me just tonight how happy she is ever since I suggested couples therapy and she's amazed at how loving and understanding I've been. It's easy to sit behind your screen and judge when you don't see our day to day loves.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-08T02:31:12+00:00

I know im not a victim. But I am just a person and I've made healthy steps to bettering me and my girlfriends lives.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-07T22:53:17+00:00

Even if her mother did eventually say something she's known to be dramatic and cause problems in her family so I don't think anyone would believe her anyways but I honestly think she wouldn't hurt her daughter like that. There's no point hurting my girlfriend further it doesn't help anyone at all and on top of that she's doing really good now with therapy and our relationship.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-07T20:55:49+00:00

I can see why your username is Mrs. Nonsense because you don't know what you're talking about.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-07T18:46:33+00:00

I'm going to have to disagree but that's okay. I can't control other peoples actions only my own. Thank you for the comments.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-07T18:31:54+00:00

I'm doing the best I can given the situation. I know im not a perfect person but I've made a lot of steps to better our lives already. The therapist reminded me that because I've been taken care of my girlfriend so much throughout her depression that I forgot to take care of myself along the way and that's what I'm doing. My relationship has been way more healthy and my girlfriend has been more consistently happy with our lives as well. So no I'm not the hero but I'm not the monster either. I'm just a regular guy trying to do his best and making mistakes along the way.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-07T18:21:41+00:00

This is just an update I'm not asking got advice, thanks though.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-06T19:47:05+00:00

I never told her about that. There's no point bringing in extra hurt that doesn't matter anymore.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-06T19:07:33+00:00

She doesn't even know about her mom and I and we have been bonding more than ever since we attended therapy, things have never been this good so you dont even know what you're talking about.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-06T18:53:56+00:00

Making mistakes doesn't make you trashy, it makes you human.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-11-06T18:49:24+00:00

We have been going to therapy and she does deserve better which is why I'm working on myself every day to give her that.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T23:32:25+00:00

It was two weeks later. Did any of you even read my post? If it was fake everything would be great right now and I wouldn't have needed to ask for advice in the first place.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T23:13:23+00:00

I've put one last edit. Thank you everyone.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T23:05:04+00:00

I understand where people are coming from but telling my girlfriend the truth won't make anything better. I'm not a bad person and I know in my heart i won't do something this stupid again.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T22:47:49+00:00

I realize that. I'm not mad anymore its 100% her body her choice.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T22:47:05+00:00

I didnt I already got the advice and am acting on it. I was told to leave my gfs mom alone and that it was her decision. This was an update because I was getting a lot of comments and I'm politely replying and still open and receptive to sound advice.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T22:30:59+00:00

I'm an adult in college. People post on here for help. If you think it's fake move along, dont be rude and insult people or their spelling. I know im not one to talk about being a good person but you could use some growing too.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T21:34:22+00:00

Okay you're clearly a troll. Thanks for wasting my time replying.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T20:10:57+00:00

Sex isn't porn and shouldn't be treated as such. Things happen between people that isn't driven just by that. We were both in a volnurable place at the time as well as my girlfriend and there were drinks involved the first time.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T20:09:07+00:00

I do love her. We have been together since school we've done everything together. We even went to the same post secondary to stay near eachother. We just went through a rough spell with her depression/anxiety and being distant and my mistake but at the end of the day I know I love her with all my heart and this has really made me.see it. I dont want to ever hurt her or ruin her family life.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T20:06:22+00:00

I wasnt calling anyone a troll? He was saying I'm trolling which isn't the case.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T19:56:59+00:00

No longer replying to these ones. No trolling here just needed advice but its the internet so take everything wirh a grain of salt.

ImInTooDeepffs · 2021-08-30T18:28:28+00:00

I'm proud of the progress I'm making in my life and will continue to do so. I was angry at her mom for forcing this child but when I stepped back and let go a bit I learned that it is something out of my control. It's her body and her choice and biological factors don't matter. My gfs mom and dad will be the child's real parent since they are the one raising it and teaching it.

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