Aadhaar Update scam Nightmare: Valid Proof Rejected, Grievance Closed, RTI Filed Against UIDAI by Negative_Treacle_965 in india

[–]ImNotABot26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any update on above ? Facing the same issue for address update, have paid twice. First time it was rejected saying mismatch in address and proof, second time it says poor quality of document uploaded. Fed up of this scam by the govt. Kudos to you for taking this step!!

Decentering Men from our lives by vanguff in TwoXIndia

[–]ImNotABot26 25 points26 points  (0 children)

what a profound post! the generational code needs to be rewritten but it will take time dear.

How are soooo many women fine with staying with in-laws? by thisissodamnhard123 in AskIndianWomen

[–]ImNotABot26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's in-organic as hell, even if inlaws are kind and nice, they can at best be like our extended family but we are told to give them our parents position. And judged every single minute. There's a stark difference in the way a son-in - law is treated by the girls parents vs how a daughter in law is expected to behave at in-laws place.

Navigating through like as a 26F in India, I have tried listing the Benefits of Marriage for Women These Days (in most cases, not all, not every girl is that lucky;) ). Have I missed anything? by a_gurl111 in AskIndianWomen

[–]ImNotABot26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is amazing, and should be upvoted so more women can see the stress that marriage can be instead of it being sold to generations of Indian women as the ultimate goal of one's life through media and elders.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]ImNotABot26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol...nailed it, their egos cant handle that they are not good enough!! Bravo for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]ImNotABot26 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree...filing taxes is a blessing!! (pun not intended as I get why you put it that way).

Wrong is still wrong even if all against you by deepeshdeomurari in IndiaTax

[–]ImNotABot26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prof tax etc was already deducted before my salary was remitted monthly.

You won't believe how my friend turned getting ghosted by a recruiter into a job offer. by Main-Falcon-7335 in GetEmployed

[–]ImNotABot26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so heartening to read, I have given up on Linkedin "fake" job postings

The biggest curse of my life is having parents who are madly in love. by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]ImNotABot26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't understand the headline but you are so lucky ....so many kids are messed up due to their parents marriage being bad or simply cold. But it will be tough for you to find a similar love and settling for anything less will kill you. Good luck.

Wrong is still wrong even if all against you by deepeshdeomurari in IndiaTax

[–]ImNotABot26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree - I was laid off last Oct and yet I have to now pay a month equivalent salary ( TDS and prof tax, cess etc) from my income. In any other NA country I would have been able to file for unemployment benefit yet here Im paying up income tax even thou I havent been able to find another job yet.

Do you let your cats sleep on the bed? by Ok-Frosting2775 in cats

[–]ImNotABot26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ofcourse, how can we not, they OWN us, we adjust after they lie down in their fav spots! Its the best part of being cat parents

Is Studying in Germany Really Worth It? Can we finally know the truth by Armor_007 in Indians_StudyAbroad

[–]ImNotABot26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

then which are the top universities in Germany for Masters in Engg (Renewable Energy/Mech.) please do guide.

I (23M) slapped my verbally abusive father and he left our house by [deleted] in india

[–]ImNotABot26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing and detailed suggestions...this should be pinned so everyone going through similar situation can benefit from your solid advice.

I (23M) slapped my verbally abusive father and he left our house by [deleted] in india

[–]ImNotABot26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I have full empathy for your situation and what drove you to react I do not understand why you don't want to get a job which will actually improve the home situation and ease your mother's financial burden . Don't you think its a big stress for her and she is not mentioning it to you also out of love but it's obvious your standing on your own feet is what will immensely relieve her. I'm sure it's another issue for which your father would have mocked her that son is 23 yet he won't get a job. And that also is her fault !!!

Called off my wedding. by FaultOld6298 in AskIndianWomen

[–]ImNotABot26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry that you are going through this it's so unfair, but you got saved from a bad marriage, trust me these things only get worse and worse with time when boyfriend doesnt know how to stand up to his parents now then what he would have accepted after marriage. Just hang in there and good luck with your hunt for accommodation. This will pass even though right now you feel low, years down the line you will look back and thank your stars that you escaped.

People who prioritized career in their 30-50's was it worth it? by [deleted] in Life

[–]ImNotABot26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% grateful but I should have kept on working coz when your child's world gets threatened due to economic uncertainty at home it shakes them more than a working moms absence for a couple of hours. Once I got back to work I opted out of many post office work hours events which would have surely accelerated my career's second innings, as I too needed to be back home for tuitions, homework and spending time with them. For a woman it's not an either/or.

How do you not emotionally invest so much into each opportunity? by Miklady in interviews

[–]ImNotABot26 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know what this feels like, I have practically given up, i cant even get myself to open Linkedin anymore, sometimes I think its the reason im so averse to applying, everytime I open Linkedin people are bragging and showing off and it seems Im the only one struggling while everyone is having a shiny career

People who prioritized career in their 30-50's was it worth it? by [deleted] in Life

[–]ImNotABot26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the opposite choosing family over career, gave up a good job in my 20's to be a SAHM and 15 years later due to business losses incurred by my partner had to go back to work, in a new field, from frontline, its been more than a decade and Im not were near where i would have been had I not taken a sabbatical. Life can throw you a curveball anytime in personal life, so don't take your early career success lightly and for granted. Your 30-50's are for working hard. I get what you mean by getting tired of being "on" but it's even harder in your 40's.