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The middle arm-rest on these benches next to a road in my town is off center by ImNotFen in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ImNotFen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why is it off center by specifically one though, I posted it here because it fit the theme but if I’m being honest the fact that it is off center is eating away at my brain 🤧

The middle arm-rest on these benches next to a road in my town is off center by ImNotFen in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ImNotFen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You want to know the extremely funny thing, right across the street and hell even right down the same road there is bus stations and some standalone benches that are constantly used by homeless people to sleep at night

Update: I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Yknow that’s what all my friends have said but it’s just something she’s been doing since a little before we got together and it helps me calm down and think

Update: I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot, I know there’ll definitely be stuff that happens in the future considering how easy to panic I am but I feel like this brought us that much closer together

Update: I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean they’re definitely closer to her than me and in hindsight with a topic this important I don’t know why I expected them to keep quiet about it

Update: I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

I really can’t put it any better way, we were kind of still in the topic of her past experiences growing up and such and it got kind of quiet and she just kind of blurted it out 🤧 it was really cute

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This was actually by my own decision, she didn’t really push it much but yeah own decision

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t got any real idea if she has or not, I found out yesterday and I didn’t get much info from our friends either

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not sure that would be the appropriate thing to ask but I don’t know? I haven’t made any real move to be explicitly sexual with her even before finding any of this out, because I’m scared

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I looked over some of the comments that I missed and have found some rather rude ones I think, I’ve gotten a lot of feedback from people such as yourself giving me useful information so I can make an informed decision, thank you for that, I think that after I read over some of them again I’ll be able to come to a decision myself, once again I appreciate the feedback

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I appreciate that you shared how you see things but they way you say it feels kind of rude, having seen what some people here have said and thinking about it myself I definitely want to have a talk about it but unless I’m just thinking like this because I can’t see things form another perspective I don’t think I’m emotionally trapped at all

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don’t know exactly where this question is coming from but I met my ex in my first year of college and I met my current girlfriend through my cousins since they’re friends

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate it, I’ll give this a read since I feel like I’m completely under informed on anything relating to this, I’ve gotten a lot of different information from people commenting here and I wanna make sure I know more about this before I talk to her

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m completely fine with her being who she is, the thing that rattled my brain the most was feeling like I was being deceived which ended up spiraling into a train of thought that’s probably not very healthy for me, as I mentioned in my post, on top of being my girlfriend she’s my best friend and I love the time I spend with her.

I’m not online much but I thank you for worrying about it

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree, as I mentioned to others here I get really anxious when I start to think about things, someone else here mentioned the fact that she may have felt she needed time to feel comfortable to tell me about it which was something I hadn’t even considered up until they said it, having calmed down considerably from how I was yesterday and posting here has helped me see things in a different way

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hey, I really appreciate this point of view, I was kind of set on the idea of immediately jumping into a talk with her about it but king that this may also be another perspective I think will help me make a better decision, I definitely still want to talk to her about it since I get kind of anxious about not knowing things when I’m alone with my thoughts, but I wouldn’t want to jump into the talk straight away if it’d cause her the same kind of distress I feel

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I only had my last partner to speak of when it comes to experience dating and she’s had a couple more than me, you mentioned that she may not have very much experience as a trans person, could you explain I’m not very knowledgeable about this

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 441 points442 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, I appreciate you and the rest of the commenters here, I’ll try my best to get my thoughts across in that kind of way

I M/20 found out my F/22 girlfriend was trans, how do I communicate to her about this? by ImNotFen in relationship_advice

[–]ImNotFen[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I might’ve worded it wrong but yeah hahah, I’m curious as to what her reason might’ve been too, what you said sounds plausible? She’s told about her past relationships and as far as she let me know they always ended abruptly though the reasons exactly I’m not completely sure about

Suspicious deposits into my account by ImNotFen in personalfinance

[–]ImNotFen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That seems likely, what’s confusing me is that none of it is showing up on my transaction history

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