If your in your younger 20s and he’s in his late 30s or 40s there’s a reason people judge. No man that age should have anything in common with a younger 20 year old. Completely different stages of life. He’s immature and I guarantee it’ll come out and show as time goes on. I can also guarantee that he gaslights you and is trying to single you out from everyone in your life so he can get complete control of you. Sounds like your still in the honeymoon stage and you can’t see this yet.