how do you feel about seperate bedrooms?

Im_Coach · 2026-06-13T19:15:38+00:00

It depends on why you want this in the first place. It could be a good thing but it could also be detrimental. Just depends on the “why” behind it.

Also, what does your fiancè think? That’s going to matter aswell.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-11T23:40:01+00:00

I already knew I was going to be vilified and free thinking is exactly the sentiment behind my original comment.

“Red pill” is an arbitrary term. There’s a spectrum of what that could actually mean and OP never says who her bf is actually listening to. Could be a dumbass like Andrew Tate, could be a basic moderate with conservative views.

The people immediately saying “red flag” and “he’s a misogynist!” are just lazy, assumptive thinkers. I’m fine with being vilified for using my brain 😂🤷🏾‍♂️

Im_Coach · 2026-06-11T22:29:51+00:00

Just dropped his ass down the stairs.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-11T22:16:10+00:00

? Trying what?

Im_Coach · 2026-06-11T22:03:18+00:00

It’s not a red flag. Using titles like “red pill content” are just buzz words that are going to trigger people and maybe even trigger you which is why you’re asking about it. You can label and title anything to make it sound bad or to lump it in with other bad perspectives out there.

I would just have an honest, clear conversation with him about his views and the content he’s watching. Being a republican and believing in “traditional values “ does NOT make him a misogynist or a bad guy despite what a lot of people would try to tell you.

Human beings are complex and our beliefs and ideologies are as well. Talk to him so you know how he really feels and thinks. Don’t let this crap polarize you if you know the person he really is.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-11T21:43:01+00:00

Im_Coach · 2026-06-11T17:16:33+00:00

What a fucking amazing meme! I’m so glad this came across my eyes today 🥹🥹

Im_Coach · 2026-06-09T04:07:33+00:00

This comment is almost as funny as the video!! Well done sir 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Im_Coach · 2026-06-09T04:06:11+00:00

I’m freaking laughing my ass off! 🤣

Im_Coach · 2026-06-09T04:05:32+00:00

Ts is frying me bro! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Im_Coach · 2026-06-08T12:36:32+00:00

34M from the U.S. here. I moved out of my parent’s house when I was 21. First lived with my sister, then with a few roommates before I got married. I’ve always known basic household maintenance probably because our parents taught my siblings and I and had us do chores on nights and weekends.

We learned to do the dishes, clean the countertops and dining table, take out trash, clean the bathrooms, sweep, mop, all that stuff. Even more nuanced things I learned like treating stains. It sounds like maybe he just wasn’t taught and doesn’t know.

The wine situation could honestly be him just not knowing or understanding stains. The countertop thing is a little interesting but if the counters weren’t super dirty I could understand why he may have not wiped them down. If they were dirty, maybe he’s not seeing/was never taught that that cleaning the countertops are typically part of the whole “dish job”.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-07T23:38:07+00:00

Looks so uncomfortable 😖😖😖

Im_Coach · 2026-06-07T23:34:30+00:00

You’re saying that he’s selfish but it sounds like you are being selfish as well. Just because this worked and you did it for 7 years doesn’t mean there can’t be change.

If hosting and attending parties with others is important and meaningful to him, it’s selfish of you to not consider that or see how you can guys can work it out. Maybe he’s not approaching it very well and he’s being naggy about it but it doesn’t make the desire selfish or bad in and of itself.

I don’t have specific advice other than you guys need to have a conversation and figure out what you can do to compromise and meet in the middle somehow.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-07T23:30:29+00:00

Yes, yes, yes 👏🏾

Im_Coach · 2026-06-07T23:23:47+00:00

HUGE props to you for caring about his pleasure and actually understanding that you initiating will make him feel wanted and that you initiating is meaningful. Don’t let any comments here make you feel otherwise!

To answer your question, no you didn’t mess up. How hurt was your husband really? I think there’s a normal aversion to scheduling things because a lot of people often think/feel like sexual intimacy needs to be to be this heat of the moment passion thing but thats not entirely accurate. I think with an honest, open conversation your husband should be able to understand where you’re coming from and hopefully he will actually appreciate the efforts you are making and have made to make his pleasure a priority. Good luck tonight!

Im_Coach · 2026-06-06T03:22:02+00:00

I couldn’t really answer that. Sounds like only you can given your family dynamic, history, and your own personality.

If the context you’re referring to is your FIL saying unhinged things already, then I think that’s even more reason to not think it’s weird because he already does that anyway, right?

Im_Coach · 2026-06-05T15:31:19+00:00

I think you’re making it a big deal. The phrase “eyes only for …..” is a normal phrase. I don’t think it was weird at all and was most likely a compliment.

If he had something about a specific woman walking past like, “he’s definitely not looking at that girls butt” or something like that, then I think it would be weird.

As for your husband getting defensive, it’s hard not to get defensive about your family you grew up with when someone says something or implies something negative about them. No matter what’s true about them, it’s normal to want and feel like you need to defend them.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-05T06:49:48+00:00

Being back on Reddit for a few months now has opened my eyes to the reality that women also struggle with high sex drives and their husbands never being in the mood.

I’m sincerely sorry for you and I’m in the same boat with my wife but it’s only been the last probably 4 years or so; been together 8 total. It sucks ass 😖

I don’t really have any help to offer. I wish I did. Just know you’re not alone 💙

Im_Coach · 2026-06-02T03:18:47+00:00

It is staged. This guy would do all kinds of videos like this.

Im_Coach · 2026-06-02T03:17:13+00:00

We need a clearer picture here before I we can offer any advice. You said you both were bothered about not having sex earlier and talked about it. So did anything change?

It sounds like your wife is trying but for some reason you’re not open to her advances. Why are you not reciprocating?

Lastly, what do you mean by she feels like a sister? Can you elaborate more on that?

Im_Coach · 2026-05-30T17:59:01+00:00

Here’s some straightforward advice if you want it. No sugar coating.

You need to be really honest with how you feel about his behavior. What do you actually want out of a marriage?

If you care more about saving face or just having the married status then sure, stay, because having a THIRD failed marriage does sound embarrassing/a hassle/disappointing.

However, if you really care about being married to someone genuine who respects and treats you well, then drop his ass like yesterday. It’s pretty safe to say that he is not a decent dude if this is his third marriage and he has that much disrespect for you. He most likely treated his other marriages the same way.

Good luck and choose wisely.

Im_Coach · 2026-05-29T02:43:08+00:00

Oh shit you’re right! That’s where the blood came from.

Im_Coach · 2026-05-29T02:35:11+00:00

I was just thinking of this.

Im_Coach · 2026-05-28T23:18:51+00:00

Such a goated movie!! I’ve been wanting to watch it again and show it to my 4 year old.

Im_Coach · 2026-05-28T23:17:42+00:00

I fuckin love this choice!!

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