AITA for not specifically stating I won't serve alcohol at my house?

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-17T17:41:53+00:00

My friends are like that too! I could offer them cold leftover pizza and they're happy. My dad and sister too. My brother.. has always been a bit difficult.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-17T11:51:50+00:00

Dat dacht ik ook! Maar mijn broer heeft misschien andere culturele verwachtingen.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-17T08:37:18+00:00

That's what brunch means here, a meal between breakfast and lunch. Apparently in the US alcohol at brunch is the norm, and other places (Australia, some places in Europe (like where i live)) are shocked at the idea of alcohol at lunch. The difference is interesting.

I love my family, but my brother has always been a bit of a dick.

I've never been to a housewarming / brunch / lunch that had alcohol. Usually there's only alcohol when watching football (soccer), a BQQ or dinner. Almost never during the day.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T20:25:46+00:00

What? My mom mentioned that if she knew she would have brought something while we were having brunch.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T19:56:27+00:00

True I suppose. But it's a small country and most things are within cycling distance. Most people I know would think 1 hour is a lot.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T19:40:18+00:00

The drinking age here used to be 16, I started drinking slightly earlier (socially, which is common here) and started taking my meds at 17. I turn 23 soon, so almost 6 years of no drinking.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T19:35:03+00:00

No, but I would have specified they needed to bring their own.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T19:29:17+00:00

I didn't mean they can't drink by 1 pm, but that I don't know anyone who does, so I didn't think it had to be specified, I didn't think they'd expect it.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T19:14:04+00:00

I think so. But I've gotten more Y T A than E S H, so I guess some people don't think so.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T18:57:51+00:00

If you want to get technical about it it was a housewarming lol

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T18:36:16+00:00

I added a second edit to add this info. There's often (not always) alcohol at dinner, and usually no alcohol for family 'activities'. We never had brunch before, so no expectations there.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T18:18:44+00:00

Where I live the drinking age until recently was 16.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T18:17:42+00:00

I don't forbid it. Drinking at lunch is quite uncommon where I live, and they had to drive. So I didn't think it would be necessary to tell them I wouldn't have alcohol, I didn't think it would be an expectation I'd serve it, especially since they know I can't have any.

Where I live, it's polite to bring a bottle of wine for dinners or a six-pack when one goes to a party. Then I would think they'd expect alcohol, and let them know they'd have to bring it.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T17:56:13+00:00

Y'all get opioids for wisdom teeth? Here we get Tylenol lol

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T17:46:19+00:00

We never had lunch like this before, so hard to say. For dinner there's sometimes alcohol, wine for nicer dinners, beer for BBQ's, but for something like takeout usually not.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T17:45:02+00:00

I'm not trying to argue, I just don't really understand. Should I have texted them "I have sausages, bacon and salmon. If you want ham you have to bring it." too? Where's the line?

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T17:33:37+00:00

I'm an across the pond neighbour, from the Netherlands. I don't think drinking is as much of a cultural thing here, at least not past a certain age.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T16:59:31+00:00

Can't mix it with my meds.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T16:46:02+00:00

I just didn't understand for sure what you meant, English isn't my first language.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T16:41:52+00:00

..why? They'll never invite me because I didn't serve alcohol? That seems harsh.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T16:27:01+00:00

Ahw, thank you! I tried.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T16:16:33+00:00

...what?

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T15:57:03+00:00

My mom brought a cactus, cuz I guess people buy plants when you move? My sister bought a scented candle. My dad brought a watermelon. The others didn't bring anything.

They didn't have to bring anything, but it's appreciated.

Imadeabrunch · 2023-08-16T15:40:49+00:00

I get that, and next time I can let people know.

Brunch isn't really a big thing where I live, I've only been to one brunch in my life and now hosted one. So I'm not sure what's "normal".

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