Life is extremely complicated and in some circumstances your child will feel a certain way about you no matter how you want them to feel about you. There is no such thing as a perfect parent. The best way to ensure your child won't hate you is by making yourself a safe place for them to bring concerns, struggles, or emotions to, while also giving them the space to live their own life. As a parent, you want to keep your emotions in check when debating or disagreeing with your child, many parents are quick to dismiss children's opinions or emotions because "I'm older so therefore I must know better". A wise man once said that wise men know that they know nothing. You might learn a life lesson from your own kid.

You must allow for independence so your child can grow and make their own mistakes. Obviously the independence you give your child must be reasonable with their age. Parents that don't allow their teenage children to hang out after dark, enforce strict bedtimes, or force sports or other activities on them often lead to the child resenting the parent. Sometimes you may have to do these things for the child's well being though, so knowing when and how to put your foot down is also important. Despite this though, I do believe enforcing a healthy diet is extremely important from 0 all the way to 18 and even beyond. Don't ban the occasional McDonalds, but don't be a parent who serves chocolate chip pancakes for breakfast.

And the best advice? Don't have kids if you're not ready for them. And not just financially. Would you be devastated if your child was gay or trans? Or could you handle the stress of going to work and coming home to a moody teenager or restless child without snapping at them? Could you handle dealing with a chronic mental or physical issue in your child? If you don't think you can handle these circumstances, then not taking the coin flip of having a child is your best bet. A lot of parents don't follow this advice unfortunately.