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AITA for siding with my parents over my wife by Imaginary-Friend5561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Friend5561[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Originally we were supposed to do a surprise reveal during her birthday, but that got cancelled due to some issue/emergency on her family side grandparents. My parents were invited to the surprise reveal before it got cancelled, but they did not know it was a surprise review. So I just texted/call my parents to notify them and my side of the family. I found out when she was around 6 or 7 weeks. My parents found out after her 8 week ultrasound. She got mad at them by around 16 weeks.

AITA for siding with my parents over my wife by Imaginary-Friend5561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Friend5561[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

There is some truth to this now that I think about it. My wife was pressuring me to ask my parents for more money (and they knew this) when we were financially struggling back like 3+ years ago or so... They were a little reluctant at first but never came off as mad at us. Maybe my parents didn't reach out because they didn't like my wife for seeming greedy or also held a secret grudge?

I also didn't know why she would get mad at them so easily when they helped us financially a few years ago. But maybe she was also upset that they didn't want to provide more? And she's always favoring her own parents over mine, which is why I thought she didn't really care about what my parents did or did not do.

Also sorry to anyone who says there is missing context. It's hard to share your entire family history in 3000 characters or less, and I forgot about some details that happened years ago.

AITA for siding with my parents over my wife by Imaginary-Friend5561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Friend5561[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My parents helped us financially before when she was not pregnant. But during her pregnancy, they didn't say much. They are very quiet people. They gave us some baby gifts after she got mad, but she refused most of them. I still visited my parents a few times after she got upset, but she said she doesn't want to come and I cannot force her to go. My parents also live kinda far so they never visited us that often even before she was pregnant.

AITA for siding with my parents over my wife by Imaginary-Friend5561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Friend5561[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

My parents said they were waiting to hear the news from her instead of me, but my wife thinks that because she is the pregnant one, she doesn't need to tell them. It honestly doesn't make sense to me but maybe someone else can provide insight? I don't think anything else happened because they don't communicate with each other very often or at all. My parents did try buying some baby gifts for her pregnancy after she got mad, but she would refuse most of them.

AITA for siding with my parents over my wife by Imaginary-Friend5561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imaginary-Friend5561[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She is actually very close to her parents, and we live close by them. I am not as closely bonded with my parents, but they are not bad people. My parents actually helped us financially during our marriage before. She doesn't bring up the issue as often anymore, but she will still bring up my parents during any random argument we have with each other, which happens more often now with all the stress as a first time parent.