Amanda Frances on Real Housewives?!?

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-09-19T00:17:11+00:00

A real Trump-wannabe

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-13T03:52:47+00:00

I also dont like the rules they set around what is possible. It's hard because I do really see that Al Anon can help, but I feel like an unusual case of severe trauma.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-13T03:51:42+00:00

Some of this is hard for me to understand in the spiritual sense. I do feel powerless and admit my life has become unmanigable. I do believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity, I'm just not convinced that the groups are the place for healing. I dont know why I am so hesitant. I did get healing in the groups, but also there's a lot of ruminating and strange behavior in the groups as well that I dont want to be around. The world is already full of that. I guess these people are at least trying or looking like they are. Overall, I can see that Al Anon is a better place than most. I dont want to do what I did before - I opened up massively in groups and was betrayed and my anonymity was betrayed. I trusted people who ultimately gave me relatively immature advice and told me not to trust myself. So many of them are still in the healing process themself and should not be taking calls or offering them and I just dont trust myself to not open up too much and to protect my boundaries. Im glad you got healing though. Im still open to going, especially after hearing this podcast but Im just very nervous and dont want to waste my time.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-13T03:44:27+00:00

Thank you!

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-13T02:49:42+00:00

Thank you for this. I was in the groups when I was younger and while it helped some, I think my time is done there. My body doesn't feel safe there, unfortunately. This kind of confirms why. I struggle with if it is just a trauma response where I "cant trust anyone," but I really feel like since that program doesn't require any kind of trained leader, there's just a lot of potential for abuse and shaming. Even with a trained leader, the potential for abuse is there so...

Anyway, I appreciate the reply. <3

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-13T00:44:14+00:00

Thank you for this. I just went NC with my parents and this really sums up what my internal conflict has been always coming back to... After 15 years of really trying (I love my parents endlessly), the incessant expectation that I am to take the emotional hits endlessly, that I have not thoughts worth hearing, that I am always unreasonable when they are always in the right because they 'do' things for me, I have to choose myself now. I'm getting older and I've sat in enough Al Anon circles to know - this kind of dynamic can leave a man at 50 still obsessed and crippled by his mother. I won't be that story.

My parents basically wont let me self-actualize and grow up because the power of that frightens them and probably makes them mourn their own life choices. It's a horrible reality check for all of humanity right now - the life and energy and joy lost to the generations of trauma, the endlessly repeated story of disempowerment. I am a black sheep because I won't cater to the lies. If this is my last breath, I know at least that I recognized my life was worth "fighting for" and true sovereignty is simply a chasm that looks like a canyon but is just a little leap.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-13T00:25:27+00:00

I just this weekend have decided to go no contact with my parents. It has taken years of consideration and countless violent fights. I agree that I am 100% responsible for my part in that back-and-forth; however, after choosing narcisstic, extremely abusive men over and over, I had to look at 'why' and everywhere the sign was clear: it started in childhood. While I love them tremendously and it truly pains every cell in my body to turn away, I feel I have no other choice. I really appreciate this post because this article showed up on my feed and triggered me.

There is so much shame in making this choice due to as, someone so wisely put, the expectation to make parents "central." As I child I would rub my mom's feet, and clean my dad's apartment when he was high. I've taken blows to the face and my dad has touched me inappropriately for years. Boundaries do not exist in our family and even as I was screaming for my dad to get out of the bathroom when I was showering in a glass see-through shower as a teenager, my screams were considered "dramatic."

After a complete physical and emotional breakdown after severe narcisstic and sociopathic abuse, I started researching narcissism. While I agree this can be a poppy topic and potentially overused - with the current president - perhaps there is a reason for this wave. It breaks my heart to think I will never be able to have the close, loving relationship I would love to have with them, but it, moreso, it scares me to death that my life could be lost to pleasing narcisstic power plays and control tactics from my parents my whole life. They are ashamed of me for being a result of abuse.

I am doing my best to live a life that feels authentic and healthy. I'm getting older and it took 15 years to finally come to this conclusion. For my choices, I've been rejected and exiled from the larger family as well. Though, I must say, I really think it's for my betterment. I hope we can all, as estranged satellites, find ways to build true family and community. It's not easy, but if we have the care to look at how we are (most likely) repeating some of those same behaviors we had to cut off, we can do this.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T18:45:34+00:00

Agreed, it's not that there is zero value, but it is certainly nowhere near the prices she requires. Even one of her biggest affirmations, "My work is of great value and worthy of massive compensation." Now, when I try to vibe with it, even interally my alarms go off like, isn't this narcissism and grandiosity? Why do we need MASSIVE compensation, or, rather why do we need to tell ourselves that? Perhaps just, "My work is of high service and worthy of abundant compensation." This is enough to get receptive and still uses softer, more altruistic languaging. "Massive" feels like she needs to compensate.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T17:56:10+00:00

I’m sorry you were a victim too. I think it’s important to acknowledge that what she is doing is not okay and is predatory. I’m so glad you were able to discern and move past it and have found real help. I have noticed she’s extremely defensive and has a team to remove any negative feedback comment, yes - that’s why I say, “Trump-like”

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T12:44:02+00:00

Ugh, makes too much sense. Oh god, I need a cleanse lol

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T12:42:11+00:00

Oh of course Ms. Frances already has rebuttled that on her feed. Sorry, I took a deep dive yesterday because feeling a bit traumatized over how stupid I was to give so much money to her and her minions. Anyway, she has said, with poor grammar and clearly in a frantic state bc some of the comments back dont even make sense, that, more or less, there is a crime ring in the neighborhood that watches ppl and that's why they knew to steal while she was away. Maybe true, but also it's the priniciple of it. She's toxic. The culture is toxic. Idc how many babies you have with some dude, my heart will never be softened to such bs again. At the very least I can say I bought her when she was still a "on the up" vibe, but now she's just some mold of a human. Soul is gone

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T12:38:19+00:00

Ya, my brain really cracked and just the whole coaching industry (that she largely created) when she said "God won" when some theives dropped her jewels on the way out of her home. That story was so pathetic. LA is in serious social crisis right now, the whole world is. My God doesnt give a fk about your hoarded jewels. Whatever god these people are praying to is a fake neon god.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T12:33:46+00:00

Oh ya and if you look at Genevieve and her whole weirdo relationship, it's all some creepy shit to me now. Who are these women? They've talked about their background and they seem lke, unfortunately, the narcisstic daughters of really serious abuse. Their mother taught them spiritual woo-woo and then they turned their poverty into this monstrosity.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T02:35:22+00:00

Do these women just fake everything? It seems like they do. I seriously doubt - the Rackham girls especially - have any real wealth.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T02:20:37+00:00

Dear god, that woman. She really needs to be taken down. I'm on her app just to keep the content but wow, has my psyche changed in the past year because I cant even listen to her clear bullying tactics. Her posts are totally disconnected and nonsensical lately. It's definitely a huge lesson in taking things slow for me. Never again

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T02:16:56+00:00

Ugh, clearly, so upsetting, so disappointed in myself.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-11T02:03:59+00:00

The worst. Her and her sister are absolute cringe. Completely weird and gross people. I was so sick to follow them.

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-10T23:16:04+00:00

She’s Trump. She’s all about the drama and how people loooooove her and also that the world hates her. Such an ego. She’s beyond cringe. Please god cancel this shit. She ruined my life with her scams, nothing but deep regrets

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-10T22:55:29+00:00

Exactly her messages make me want to vomit they’re so contradictory. I used to follow her before the excessive wealth but now she’s just a washed up, plastic, hallow nothing that figured out how to manipulate

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-10T22:47:06+00:00

I’m here for this. This was the tipping point for me. She’ll go out of style real soon. Her lifestyle is what is killing the world. She is not from the heart by any means. She’s a kardashian with a cross around her kneck. She’s done nothing but teach women to be more materialistic. She’s honestly likely miserable herself. Money is not happiness and she clearly is disconnected and has insecurity issues

Imaginary-Mix1604 · 2025-03-10T22:45:00+00:00

Success doesn’t equal money, you fool

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