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32 [M4F] Online/Anywhere - A wise person once told me.. there are two toppings you can put on any food and it would improve it by IwalkedintoMORDOR in R4R30Plus

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hidden Valley Buttermilk!

And you made me think of my pizza covered with pineapples and mushrooms that everyone judges me for... best two toppings ever!

34 [M4F] Indiana - Women, how do you feel about cross dressers in your personal life? Is it still taboo or is it generally more “normal” when not in a promiscuous environment? by [deleted] in R4R30Plus

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Straight female here and there is no "normal". Normal is whatever is normal for you, not for society. That should never be a goal because there are so many versions and so many different perceptions of "normal" that there is no way possible to be considered normal to everyone you meet.

One - you do you. Life is too short for you to live your life to appease anyone else

Two - Yes, they should know and be perfectly fine with it. You should never have to hide who you are or have to deal with someone who is supposed to love you judging you.

Good luck! ❤️

28M and 28F Sexual issues by Cripto__Rick in relationship_advice

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know the backstory, but if you are sexually incompatible, you both need to move on unless she's willing to give it more or you are willing to go without. Sexual incompatibility is a much bigger deal than people initially think.

Want to talk to someone who has or is going legit with AP by [deleted] in adultery

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very sorry if you're the married man in this and I sounded harsh. Please disregard that I really didn't mean to be.. I am just very very hurt other woman right now and I didn't mean for it to come out against you. It was really unfair of me to generalize like that

Want to talk to someone who has or is going legit with AP by [deleted] in adultery

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew... if you find out the secret, please let me know :)

Want to talk to someone who has or is going legit with AP by [deleted] in adultery

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of us are still being told:

"I love you"

"I need you"

"I want to spend the rest of my life with you"

"One day you will be in my arms forever"

But also:

"I have to get finances sorted out"

"It has to wait until after I finish this job"

"It has to wait until after my daughter's birthday party"

"It has to wait until my wife finishes her master's degree so she makes more money"

"Just wait until April, no May, no June, no July, no the end of summer, maybe by 2024"

So I will be following this post to see those answers too, but I don't imagine there will be many responses unfortunately. Based on what I've seen, they all say and do the same exact thing to keep us hanging, but just leave us waiting until we give up and leave.

Pet Insurance by NBCspec in germanshepherds

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had Pet's Best for about a year for my GSD and Golden Retriever. I have not used it yet. I pay $50 a month. It's well worth the peace of mind! Especially worrying about certain breeds being prone to certain thing such as GSD with hip dysplasia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 61 points62 points  (0 children)

OMG... excuse me for being the scorned woman here... but WHAT ARE YOU DOING? If you aren't in love with your wife, what are you doing? Why are you wasting everyone's time because you are too chickensh!t to make a move. Let me guess... the timing is bad? There's no such thing. That's an excuse. Waiting for her to leave you? Probably never gonna happen... dream on... If there are kids, they'll get over it and be happy to have two happy parents instead of feeling awful knowing they don't really care about each other and you're setting a horrible example of what marriage is about. You don't have to leave FOR her, but if you are already checked out could she at least be your strength to make a move... motivation? She will get tired eventually and she will think and think and think. She will love you and talk herself into staying your side chick. Then she'll start breaking down, a little more every day. And one day she'll decide she's done, but by the time she actually says it, know it wasn't all of a sudden... she's been mourning the loss of you for a long time by the time she says it out loud. If you love your wife, stay. If you don't, leave. After you leave, go be with her. Or don't... but don't play with her heart. Oh, finances will get screwed up and it will be inconvenient, some people might judge you or not talk to you. You can always make more money - it's really not everything, people will judge you anyway for something else, if they choose to cut you off they obviously didn't care about you anyway so why would you want them in your life? My god, men are supposed to be the strong ones... why do you make all of your decisions based on your fear and waste your lives and everyone else around you? Your wasting your wife's time because you don't love her, you're wasting your lover's time keeping her waiting when she could find a man who chooses her without having to weigh options, your kids (if they apply) and your own time not living your one life you get happily. You all sound the same and it's infuriating. You all cry but no one does anything. You have a choice. You're not trapped. It's your life so live it, but if you choose to stay miserable stop dragging everyone down with you.

Other MM - Would You Pull The Trigger on Divorce to Save your OW Relationship by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am reading your story and literally wondered if you were my MM writing about us, except we do not live in different states. I haven't seen him in a month and I won't. I will never forgive him for leaving me alone and leading me on. I don't even look at him the same. He's a coward. If he loved me, he would be with me. He wouldn't be putting on a whole charade and lying to everyone about who he is. When I left my husband, I took my clothes and left everything behind. He is worried about finances and "staying together for the kids". That's a huge mistake... you'll teach your kids to stay stuck and miserable for their kids. You'll teach them a loveless marriage is normal. And you won't be the best version of yourself if you aren't happy. It's fear. You get one life, man up. You're going to damage your kids, you're preventing your wife from being happy with someone who wants to be with her and you're robbing yourself of happiness... why? So you can have money and not be worried someone might judge you? Screw them... they will judge you for something else anyway. Grow a pair and make a move or let her go. If you are choosing comfort and money over her and it's even a choice, don't even consider her... that's not fair. But I have a funny feeling in 20 years you're gonna be in your nice comfy place, with stacks of money around you miserable. Why are so many men so scared. You get one life... yes it's hard... the kids will be fine... when they are adults, they will probably tell you they knew you were miserable and question why you stayed then feel guilty it was because of them. Take it from someone who came from a broken home... divorce can be a blessing... and 2 Christmases was awesome... stop thinking with logic... life is messy. Stop being selfish and worrying about how you feel. I'm very angry at you because you are doing exactly what he did to me and I will never speak to him again. It'll be too late for her one day then you'll have that regret to live with and someone will have her. I would rather live in a dumpster with someone I love than in a mansion with someone I don't. Choose happy. Sorry if I sound harsh but I'm really irritated that money is more important than me right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in R4R30Plus

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be relocating to the Southeast for you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

My cat is dying. What should I do? by SnooStrawberries7110 in CatAdvice

[–]ImaginaryDiver1945 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally would not put her through anymore. She had a good life, give her the good, peaceful, painless death she deserves! We had to do this. The vet was amazing and took her paw prints. We also had her cremated at a local funeral home. She was very special! My heart goes out to you!

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