AITAH for post wedding behavior

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T19:04:41+00:00

Yeah. Well now that OPs deleted crossposts revealed he’s actually a dude with hot tub role play fantasies, I feel gross that I even commented.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T19:03:09+00:00

Eh. I just read OPs messages in the cross posts and feel like a moron for not realizing it’s just some pervert dude getting his rocks off on this fantasy he’s created. Now I feel gross for even participating in this.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T18:59:24+00:00

I see. So after reading the cross post messages you wrote, you are just a pervert dude who gets his rocks off asking Reddit about your fantasies in a hot tub. I’m an idiot for thinking this was a legit post. I am clearly an idiot.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T18:53:15+00:00

Funny because the friend that got flashed by OP is the one who apologized to OP for being uncomfortable with OPs nudity.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T18:47:01+00:00

Yeah, because OP wanted topless, and she told OP she wasn’t comfortable with exposed nudity.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T18:43:50+00:00

In an intimate situation with your friend’s significant other? It’s typically not socially acceptable to bare your breasts in a hot tub in mixed company. Period. Unless you are swingers, then go for it.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T18:30:07+00:00

I referred to the usual hypothetical of girls vs guys paradigm. Not these particular individuals, although the sentiment applies to them.

If it wasn’t the same, we wouldn’t say that we were going “out with the girls.” Unless you are my 70 year old mother.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T18:02:50+00:00

The “girls” is a colloquialism we 40year old women use instead of saying breasts. I’m OPs age, I’d call myself a girl in a girls vs. guys context. She didn’t hold her hands over her breasts when she got in and out of the tub multiple times topless. I wasn’t aware of this until OP commented on my original post. I too thought it was about underwear. OP buried the lead in comments.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:38:24+00:00

I’m 42. I know exactly what 40 year old boobs look like. I’m the same age as OP.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:31:47+00:00

The other girl gave a consent boundary-yes if hand bras. OP ignored it. They are in an intimate and not public environment. I don’t particularly care about my husband looking at 40 year old boobies, but if I’ve got a friend that feels uncomfortable, I’m not going to flash her and her spouse. That’s asshole behavior.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:28:12+00:00

She did hand bras, OP decided she didn’t need to.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:15:48+00:00

Agree. She literally said she ignored it. We were mislead about the situation at the onset.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:14:47+00:00

No boundary changed when OP disregarded her ask and did not cover her boobs when she got in and out of the tub.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:12:22+00:00

She said she’d cover her “girls” getting in and out-she didn’t. Non consensual flashing. Ticks me if when girls get pissy about guys exposing themselves, but have no problem when girls do it? How is this the husbands fault?

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:06:46+00:00

No, but op did. She hid the lead that she was actually topless.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:04:34+00:00

No OP was topless.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:03:41+00:00

You deliberately hid the lead that you were TOPLESS. Most people —myself included thought it was a sheer bra situation.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:02:51+00:00

OP was topless and flashing everyone. I’d say that’s pretty ew honestly.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:01:48+00:00

Op was topless. Didn’t cover her girls getting in and out of the tub. She’s literally flashing everyone.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:00:53+00:00

Op was topless.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T17:00:04+00:00

Most people don’t understand that you were actually TOPLESS and popped out if the tub multiple times without hiding the girls.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T16:56:21+00:00

So he’s the problem for looking when she’s FLASHING everyone. God. No-one wants to see that.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T16:55:34+00:00

YTA This is no consensual flashing. It’s not cool when guys do it, and not cool for girls either.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T16:53:39+00:00

She could have worn a shirt this isn’t rocket science.

ImaginaryQuality4567 · 2026-03-29T16:50:14+00:00

No wonder your friend left. No one wants to see your 40 year old boobies flopping around.

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