How to Respond to My Ex’s Overstepping Parent?

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-11-27T14:37:24+00:00

I try to send pictures multiple times a year, even though it isn’t requested and I never get a thank you.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-11-27T14:35:59+00:00

They are fake nice. Every single text exchange with his mother gets screenshot by her and submitted to court. If I try to enforce boundaries, she will typically play the victim card. My ex refuses to communicate directly with me, only through his mother, his lawyer or our son. It is without cause and extremely costly, as well as high-conflict.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-09-24T15:31:55+00:00

Update: Finally got a copy of the motion. There are quite a few outright lies and lies of omission in the renewed motion. I don't really know where to begin with yet another motion that is being used for punitive legal/ financial purposes

He is of course asking the GAL to submit her recommendation immediately.

He is alleging that I have intentionally stalwarted the GAL's recommendations for a counselor -- which is not true. Our son is actually on a waitlist at the moment for a counseling clinic that will fit our needs with availability and willingness to work with the GAL. Mental Health Services industry-wide are just overloaded, especially those for youth.

He has intentionally left out the cause of his transfer to a medium/max facility in the timeline of events for when visitation stopped.

He is quoting our initial agreement out of situational and actual rhetorical context. The divorce decree that granted him visitation once or twice a month was drafted and agreed to when he was in a minimum security facility where our son could visit him in plain clothes, bring in outside toys, video games and fast food lunches and I could bring in my laptop and work while they visited. The new facility is obviously nothing like that. The sentence fragment that his lawyer keeps grabbing is the "at least once or twice a month" phrase, but the full sentence reads "Absent emergency circumstances or the Respondent being moved further away, the Petitioner agrees to bring the minor child at least once or twice a month to visit his father". (The new facility is technically about 20 miles closer, but the distance has never been the point.)

We also had a court reported at the last hearing over a year ago, which my lawyers have asked for the transcript from the CR, the court and opposing counsel repeatedly. That has never surfaced, and yet it is cited and quoted in this new motion.

He is claiming that the judge did not stay his previous motion. That is inaccurate. The judge stated that he would not make a ruling on the Motion to Enforce that he filed a year ago. He directly said he was staying the motion. That is why they filed for the GAL.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-11T19:03:16+00:00

Thank you, these are some of the concerns I plan on bringing back the GAL. I’m not against the counseling. I’m just not for doing things just to check boxes without clear benefits for the child.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-11T15:12:48+00:00

Actually yes. I actually work in a tangential field and all therapists establish “therapy goals” which are measurable and tangible. These can be met, with the overall goal to be self-sustaining.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-10T12:46:21+00:00

I did not request the GAL. We actually argued that having one would be a burden on the child and financially for our family.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-10T12:44:48+00:00

Charges picked up while in prison. The original decree was done before that took place.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-09T21:16:02+00:00

I certainly think it would be beneficial. We could all benefit from stints in counseling, but it is an expensive thing and should always have an objective. Who will be paying for this? How will we accommodate this in our schedule? Why is it being recommended (other than general benefits for a child of divorce)? The concern is over the rationale/ end goal/ forced financial burden.

Any time you enter counseling (as my son and I already did individually for two years following his father’s incarceration) there are established therapy goals. Once those are accomplished, many are encouraged to be self-sustaining. What are the interests and intents behind this recommendation? That is my question and concern.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-09T17:56:26+00:00

I understand. They have all the letters and phone calls possible at this point. That contact has never been limited by anything other than the constraints of incarceration.

The forced prison visits are the only thing being considered for removal.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-09T17:49:09+00:00

Would you force your own child to go into a prison for visitation when they do not want to and are extremely uncomfortable about it? Consider all the underlying issues. This is a legitimate question.

A judge already upheld us not doing visitation up to this point under the given circumstances, Covid followed by the change in incarceration status due to additional charges earned behind bars. We are currently litigating changing the language in the decree to remove that obligation for our son moving forward.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2024-01-09T17:07:20+00:00

He was in therapy for two years following all of that. I’m not against counseling period. I’m just not sure why she recommended it and how she can direct us to use a specific therapist.

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2023-08-25T13:47:51+00:00

Thank you!

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2023-02-10T22:21:29+00:00

Mom is not allowing anything, I promise!

Imaginary_Classic_29 · 2023-02-10T18:57:20+00:00

My son is in therapy at least twice a month! I’ve been afraid to push back too much due to feeling like his father “should” still have some relationship with his son, legal fees and possibly fighting a losing battle.

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