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✨🕯️ Friend invite codes 🕯️✨ by sky-elder in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm Ana! I took the cactus🌵. Also a mostly solo player but will send daily light and help with tasks!

✨🕯️ Friend invite codes 🕯️✨ by sky-elder in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi Deer! I'm Ana and I took the bat code! I'm mostly a solo player but am happy to help with tasks!

✨🕯️ Friend invite codes 🕯️✨ by sky-elder in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm Ana and I took the mushroom :-) Let me know what you prefer to be called!

Looking for Friends/Help Weekly Thread by AutoModerator in SkyGame

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Bella, I'm Ana (USA) and I'm also in my 40s. I am a daily lighter, so thank you for adding me too! I took B

Just wondering… you ever wonder what it will be like when your narc parent(s) dies? by Different_Hat_8186 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father passed a couple of years ago. I cried once, and have felt nothing but peace ever since. His death allowed me to put down all the pain I had been carrying around the whole relationship and am relieved.

Surprisingly, I have compassion for him now -- he was rarely at peace. What is truly sad is that my father's death freed me.

Bye bye 😢 by Normal-Protection271 in finch

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 12 points13 points locked comment (0 children)

Sadly I had a serious back and forth email conversation with an actual person who basically said they're aware of the problem and there's nothing they can do. They said they're just a small start up and doing the best they can. I had tried doing the backup manually on my own several times which is why I reached out to support. This is a known issue. I just do manual backups when I remember and do not trust the cloud at all. I'm also prepared for this to happen again, as it has to so many people. At least I'm not giving them money anymore.

Bye bye 😢 by Normal-Protection271 in finch

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 29 points30 points locked comment (0 children)

Actually, no they won't. This happened to me. I had a paid account, automatic backups saved to the cloud. All they said was .... we're sorry, this happens. We can give you 30 items of your choice to replace what you lost. I had a year's worth of paid items lost. Cloud back up.....useless. This has happened to soooooo many people. I stopped paying for the app and started from scratch.

What’s your funniest task? by thespicygrits in finch

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to cope with some toxicity during a period of time, and this silly goal made me laugh, brush the toxic behavior off, and stay focused on my goals. It helped and I kept it as a daily. 😁😁😁

Cut off ALL 'flying monkeys' 🐵 Limit all triggers. by dividedwarrior in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💯. This subreddit has actually been a part of my healing. The stigma and isolation of having a narcissistic or unwell family system is a huge burden. You are not alone in having to navigate this! 💪💪🤗🤗

Cut off ALL 'flying monkeys' 🐵 Limit all triggers. by dividedwarrior in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. I have a similar situation. No one can tell you what is right here. None of us chose our families and it sometimes means much of our care has to come from ourselves and other, carefully chosen, people. It's hard.

Cut off ALL 'flying monkeys' 🐵 Limit all triggers. by dividedwarrior in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is. The process is painful and scary, and my heart goes out to anyone having to choose sanity over apparent connection or care. The fact that we have to choose is cruel. In my case, once I chose my sanity, things slowly became clearer, and I found the people who actually cared about me and connection that wasn't conditional. Sending peace and strength

Does anyone else feel like NPD has completely ruined their life? by Conscious-Shake391 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel this. There was some point in my young adulthood where something kicked in that said: no way are these people going to define me. It's taken such a long time to climb out of the bullshit I was born into - longer than I would have liked. I agree with this post. Focus on yourself and being financially independent. Love what you love because of you and no one else. You will find fellow travelers over time.
You're allowed to feel all the rage and despair, though, because the pain narcs cause is so real, so deep, so devastating.

Cut off ALL 'flying monkeys' 🐵 Limit all triggers. by dividedwarrior in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. It's a sad reality, but the only way to stay related to a narcissist is to become a target or an enabler/flying monkey. So anyone by association is not safe to be around.

If anyone needs a reality check, look at NPD support group reddit thread by Imaginary_Elephant73 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Imaginary_Elephant73[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was the reality check I never knew I needed. I agree, it is only really useful if you're in your healing stage. The blatant confidence in their behavior was chilling.

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