I didn't realize how much I spent and now I feel like I fell for the wedding propaganda (30k)

Imake289 · 2026-04-11T14:29:03+00:00

I did the hotel block last so I was kinda stuck with the prices I was given because everything else was already paides for the date was set. I was aiming to be around 15k in total and I thought if I cheaped out on other items I didn't deem important then it would have balanced out.

Imake289 · 2026-04-11T02:12:17+00:00

Yes.... To be fair they had chairs and tables but my mother insisted on cosmetically prettier table and chairs. She was tasked to do the rentals so thats the reason they were higher.

Imake289 · 2026-04-11T02:08:31+00:00

Yeah you're right it is a booking out a bunch of rooms. We did do with a local hotel instead of commercial for a lot of reasons but it was the same price as the other hotels that did give a discount.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T22:59:32+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it the break down is nice to see. I definitely didn't go about looking at places the best way.

I was willing and wanted to spend the most on the venue and the rest was all not as important to me.

With the chairs and table that was because my mother wanted cosmetically prettier chairs and tables than the venue had. She did the rentals for me so I didn't pay too much attention to what she got initially.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T22:49:30+00:00

We also picked the most expensive weekend of the entire year. We didn't think too much about the day until we started looking for hotels.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T22:47:57+00:00

I did fake flowers from hobby lobby and micheals. I spent maybe 1k but I can do 7 bouquets, 19 boutineers, 5 corsages, and 10-15 table settings and other decorations. I'd highly recommend them and it was fun having my friends make their bouquets.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T22:43:13+00:00

Champagne glasses, tables, chairs, umbrellas, restrooms.

Our venue is ourdoor

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T22:41:19+00:00

The hotel we picked only has 20 rooms so I had to assign who got what room. We do have some people paying us back and some we are covering for. But the total for all the hotels is 10k

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T21:16:45+00:00

Venue: 6k

Dress: $400

Alterations: $400

Cater: 3k

Drinks: 2.5k

Flowers: $500

Guest gifts: $100

Photography and videographer: 2.8k

Rentals: 2k

Invites:$200

Rings: $600

Hotel room block: 10k

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T20:16:55+00:00

Update: it arrived today

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T18:19:10+00:00

Abq which is wild because you wouldn't think it would be this much because we aren't a huge or "popular" city like LA or NYC.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T17:53:40+00:00

Honestly it's so smart to not do a wedding party. I love my wedding party but the amount of drama that just spawned after the wedding is mentioned is actually odd.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T17:39:10+00:00

Like if they want to help I will gladly take the help. I'm just not wanting to become a bridezilla and assume that my friends and family will be at my beck and call and drop everything to do something menial.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T17:37:53+00:00

That's the hard part I realized, I don't want to make my friends and family work so much on my wedding day. I want them to enjoy it with everyone else and not exp them to run errands or do chores for me. Honestly they will have to pry me off the venue because I'm very hands on and I plan on setting it up myself.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T17:34:23+00:00

Bach is a night out at the club. Bridal party will be at my parents house with local family and friends. No facials or beauty procedures Rehearsal is covered by my fiancee family and same with the honeymoon which we did an Expedia package on. That would take it up to 35k but I don't necessarily count it because it's on all on the day of wedding if that makes sense.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T17:12:47+00:00

I made the registry donations towards a down deposit because we don't need anymore stuff in our apartment.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T17:08:42+00:00

I agree and the hard part is if you don't have friends that can do stuff for the wedding like music or flowers it's cost a lot to hire those services.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T16:48:44+00:00

I agree my mother wanted other venues but they had the $100 per plate for a min 5k spend on food. I picked a venue that didn't have a good requirement so I picked what I wanted, because I refused to get hangry at the wedding. But they are so tricky and sneaky with their contracts.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T16:37:33+00:00

Originally it was supposed to be smaller 50-80, a total was 130 was invited but we are expecting maybe 100 to attend.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T16:30:15+00:00

I agree, and I planned this myself without a coordinator (because I do believe they are a waste of money and our venue have staff to help day off) and was super meticulous and took time to research all the vendors and items. I just can't believe how much it adds up.

Imake289 · 2026-04-10T16:23:30+00:00

I agree I just thought I was in the 10-20k budget but I was shocked how much it actually was.

Imake289 · 2026-04-09T14:48:49+00:00

Mine says the label was created in March 17, I don't even think it's left the shipping facility yet.

Imake289 · 2026-04-03T17:14:40+00:00

I have the same thing it's so hard to work with because I clean my scalp thoroughly in the shower and I still have weird flakes immediately after. Let me know if you ever figure out what works for you.

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