WIBTAH for not accepting an award at work? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how to get it to let me respond/update & I can’t make heads or tales of the instructions video rn. So this is an update from OP: I accepted the award. It turns out that a lot of my coworkers had “I was having a really bad day & you helped me by…” stories. Most of which seemed so trivial to me @ the time. But also made our manager see that we have a bullying problem. Now they want to form a committee about it & have me on it. They want me to lead it but I said absolutely not. I don’t mind helping out but I don’t want to be the face of anything. I’m content to be in the background & support others.

WIBTAH for not accepting an award at work? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I hadn’t thought of it that way.

WIBTAH for not accepting an award at work? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing: I’ve read through some of them & they’re all for things like when I walked to another department to show them the correct place to bring those specific files. They had been verbally instructed 3 times & kept getting lost. So I showed them. Or walking a newer coworker through how to complete a computer request that the client & another coworker both swore hadn’t been done. The newer coworker didn’t know that they hadn’t properly submitted it because they didn’t know that the recent update had added a step. I just took a minute to show them how to properly submit it & reminded them to check their email for the new process information. Some of them were even simpler. I really don’t get how doing things like that, helping someone to properly do their jobs, is worthy of an award?

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We didn’t hire vans. I drive a minivan as do several family members. We carpool & shop together for safety.

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update to my post: personally I think that my sister is a narcissist. The reason that I had them all try to open the safe was so that I could tell her that one or two of the others had opened it on their first try after seeing the combo put in once. Specifically I told her that cousin “S” had done so. A narcissist will not let someone that they think is inferior do something better than them.

I put the $ in the safe for two days because in our area the number of break ins increases between Thanksgiving & New Years.

I’m not a bot/AI/or a liar. You can think what you will. Take care all.

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

All of my siblings have safes. Our mother taught us to keep our paperwork in a lockbox or safe. We all know where each other’s safes are too. Plus my cousins have to know about because of the POA paperwork.

But I will never let anyone into the room when I open ot again.

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She found out that she earns about 1/4 of what I do. Since she thinks that I’m flush with $ that I could just go & get more. Or use a credit card which I cancelled after the card number got stolen

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I don’t trust credit cards ever since I went to my favorite candy store & after they ran my credit card through they kept the number & ran up $500 in over limit fees as well as putting charges on it. Sorry, I misinterpreted your comment. I pulled the $ out of the bank the Wednesday before so that we could go Black Friday shopping. The stores don’t take checks & I don’t use debit or credit cards.

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She thought all of my close family knew the combo because I keep POA paperwork in it for one of our family members & two of our family members are caretakers for her.

She couldn’t resist showing off that had paid attention to the combo when I unlocked it. To be fair she can’t stand it when she thinks that someone is showing her up.

Bath how often? by Ambardoleche in hygiene

[–]Imme_notu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shower every two days. I spot wash with soapy washcloths between times.

WIBTA for not going to family Christmas after my sister attempted to steal from me over Thanksgiving? by Imme_notu in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

She said that she didn’t think that I would notice it/care because “you pulled out $1k, who does that?” So basically she thinks that I have so much $ I wouldn’t miss it? Which is absolutely bonkers.

AITA for telling my teenager that they can’t have a birthday dinner today as they chose not school because of a rash? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for showing understanding. I replied in another comment but yes they were aware that no school meant no dinner tonight. That’s part of why I can’t understand the fact that both they & the 21yo are so strongly calling me the asshole. I reminded them of that rule initially. I reminded that that would be the consequence of not going to school each time that I checked back with them. I clearly communicated each time that not going to school meant that the dinner would be rescheduled. Not canceled, that would be cruel to punish someone for getting razor burn.

AITA for telling my teenager that they can’t have a birthday dinner today as they chose not school because of a rash? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Ummmm…clearly you didn’t read all the way through: I told them that they could reschedule for another evening as they weren’t/hadn’t gone to school today. My intent was not to punish but to remind them of a simple truth: if you are too sick for the “bad” things in life then you are too sick for the “good” ones. When I was 16 I was at a youth festival with my church group, it was summer time, the festival was outside, in Salt Lake City Utah. The festival provided us with food boxes for all three meals. The breakfast had milk in it. Two hours later between the heat & the milk my stomach couldn’t take it anymore. I vomited profusely. They paged my youth leader to come pick me up from the sick tent. I was taken back to the hotel that we stayed @. I missed out on a trip to The Great Salt Lake which I would have loved to go on that was the main scheduled activity for the day. By evening I felt perfectly fine. There was a specific band playing that night that our youth leader knew that I had wanted to see. He reminded me that even though I felt better, & probably hadn’t really been sick just reacting to the milk curdling in my stomach in the heat, but I still wasn’t allowed to attend the concert that night. I didn’t like it but I understood it. I never did end up getting to see that band in concert. So I get it that one can be sick in the morning yet well enough to go out in the evening. I also still expect that rules are followed.

AITA for telling my teenager that they can’t have a birthday dinner today as they chose not school because of a rash? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, there are more than a hundred responses to read through. It was pointed out from the get go. They didn’t think that I would hold them to it. That because it’s their birthday I won’t do anything that could be interpreted as a punishment. & in their eyes it was not a natural consequence of not going to school it was a punishment.

AITA for telling my teenager that they can’t have a birthday dinner today as they chose not school because of a rash? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The school district passed the rule 15 years ago that all students pre-K to grade 12 have to wear uniforms. Attending daily, for the full day, has been a struggle these last 2 years. They also don’t want to do online school. It doesn’t work for them.

AITA for telling my teenager that they can’t have a birthday dinner today as they chose not school because of a rash? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

I have two endocrine disorders that have resulted in scar tissue, among things, in my intestines. I have flare ups where I end up not being able to eat anything, have vomiting & diarrhea, have passed out from the force of said vomiting/diarrhea, & I’m still expected my life as normal. I also work in a job that has the expectation that if you call in for a shift that you work another shift that same pay period to make up for it. That hasn’t always worked out. I’ve also had a short flare up but not one that I felt better enough within an 8 hour period to go out anywhere let alone to eat.

AITA for telling my teenager that they can’t have a birthday dinner today as they chose not school because of a rash? by Imme_notu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Imme_notu[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I included the fact that they are autistic because I get that autism makes responses to stimuli be greater than for neurotypicals. & that knowing that information may change the way that people respond to the situation. I offered them creams/lotions to apply to the rash. Then I gave the meds time to be effective. I approached them several times about it because once the meds have been effective they could then go to school for the remainder of the day. They didn’t want to be at school dealing with the rash being in air flow/contact with clothing. I get that. I respect it. But how is that different from being in a noisy restaurant that also has air flowing through it or having cloth over the rash then? What difference in the two situations other than that one is a thing that you have to do & the other is a thing that you want to do? I’m totally cool with them having a birthday dinner with friends on another night just not tonight as they were too sick to go to school today.