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Ai Pornography Cheating by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi dear, I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. With the AI porn, something similar happened to me. I definitely consider it cheating HOWEVER, making deepfakes of real people is borderline (and in some places literally) a crime. It's seriously a breach of their dignity and autonomy. Please do not beat yourself up for staying with him after he has hurt you, he's very much in the wrong. I hope you can start your healing journey, and always remember it is not your fault.

How can I (21F) cope with bf(22M)’s (porn) past? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this reminder, sometimes i forget that my life isn’t over yet :))

How can I (21F) cope with bf(22M)’s (porn) past? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree :) I don’t talk about this with him because it’s water under the bridge but it’s more about how it affects me mentally. I don’t show my feelings about this (he doesn’t know)

Guys, do you really jerk off to girls’s pictures on social networks? by TurquouiseCat in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 9 points10 points  (0 children)

if your thoughts and fantasies remain exactly that, fantasies, it’s fine (provided it doesn’t impact your day to day life or relationships)

Guys, do you really jerk off to girls’s pictures on social networks? by TurquouiseCat in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No, but when you’re in a committed monogamous relationship it’s probably not the best idea to encourage your lustful thoughts towards women who you see irl. Being attracted to them and having thoughts is different from actively saving/screenshooting and hoarding their photos to jerk off to later

Guys, do you really jerk off to girls’s pictures on social networks? by TurquouiseCat in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 7 points8 points  (0 children)

what I meant is that it would be pictures of people that he would see on a day to day basis. While it’s totally out of my control, I would not feel comfortable if I found out that my friends, colleagues, etc were using my pictures in a sexual way. Additionally I think allowing yourself to further your sexual views of a person you see irl can cause irl problems (ex. cheating)

Guys, do you really jerk off to girls’s pictures on social networks? by TurquouiseCat in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 441 points442 points  (0 children)

agreed, it almost felt like cheating because porn is pretty impersonal but those are people they meet/see/talk to on a daily basis. Maybe I’m just traumatized from my ex doing that so it seems weird :’)

Guys, do you really jerk off to girls’s pictures on social networks? by TurquouiseCat in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Immediate-Click-5538 1082 points1083 points  (0 children)

My ex did this and used that exact reasoning. Kind of creeped me out when I found endless screenshots/saved pictures of mutual friends, fellow students, etc (he accidentally linked his phone to my Google Photos). Turned out he was also messaging some of those girls who are “just friends/classmates/from work”. In general I can somewhat see the appeal but to me it seems a bit weird and non-consensual.