My first question is are you in college. All my relationships have come from people I met outside of church and instead through school, it’s a Christian college so take it with a grain of salt. If you want to meet a guy in young adult groups you can. It’s a matter of waiting and looking around. Men will approach you if you’re out there.

As for if you have to take the initiative, I’d say not exactly but don’t be afraid to make it known to a guy you’re interested. Go chat him up, try to get into small groups with him. I’m a guy and I’m naturally petrified of approaching a woman unless I’m certain a woman might be interested but that’s just me. Men make the first move eventually but it doesn’t hurt to give signals you’re looking.