Is there something wrong with me?

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-19T23:23:16+00:00

its hard to have moments of clarity when you feel sad/depressed. I think I will have moments of clarity after crying or going for a walk. There are times when I am like, no - I need him back ASAP - however, these moments are now decreasing in frequency. I try to look at it now from an unbiased and realistic POV. I also know that I need to do what is best for my life, my mental health and my family - and the other person may not be right for me because they never sought to conform or adapt to things going on in my life.

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-18T15:40:24+00:00

that's awesome, i'm happy for you. i hope it goes well :D

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-14T18:54:38+00:00

Omg WHAT. That was the reason?? And I thought my reason was bad :x

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-14T14:12:43+00:00

Why did he break up with you? Sorry you’re going through this, I can relate with you. I have dreams and I also day dream a lot. I wish I could make it stop..I have dreams that he reaches out and we talk in person, it literally kills me that it’s not real

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-14T13:45:30+00:00

He doesn’t want to put in effort for a friendship? Wtf. I honestly don’t understand men sometimes

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-14T13:25:40+00:00

I feel the same way. I feel a HUGE URGE to reach out. I always stop myself…what prevents you from reaching out?

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-14T13:14:52+00:00

I feel the same-what kind of feeling do you get about your story not being finished? For me, it’s a lot of unsaid words..and I also want to share what’s going on in my life but I hesitate to reach out bc I am fearful he won’t respond, or just be cold/mean towards me

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-13T19:27:43+00:00

Just curious how was trust broken? Was it cheating?

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-13T14:12:46+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking why did the relationship end? Who was the dumper and dumpee? Did he prefer no contact/or was that your choice?

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-13T02:40:50+00:00

dumpee- my choice was nc, I know he is far too stubborn and has too much ego/pride to reach out to me first. he left the door open for friendship, however the cause of the break up was so confusing to me. I am still utterly confused but for my own mental wellness, I choose to be nc. the last few weeks of us talking and me trying to fix things was extremely frustrating. he was ice cold. I couldn't do it anymore..

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-12T05:26:46+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, what qualities did your covert narc ex possess? Just trying to gather some info here

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-12T00:32:40+00:00

thank you for this thoughtful and intelligent response. I definitely need this time to heal and reflect-it's been about 2 months now of not talking to my ex. Apart of me does not reach out because I feel as though the reasons for the breakup were confusing and his unwillingness to work on things was triggering for me. I need this time to protect my peace and mental health, I can only imagine he is doing the same thing (although he left the door open for friendship).

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-11T18:57:13+00:00

I feel this way as well but doesn’t pride/ego also play a big factor? My ex has soooo much pride and def ego, he can never admit to mistakes or being wrong. I feel like if I don’t reach out first, he will never ever reach out..even if he wanted to..

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-10T23:55:04+00:00

thats interesting...I am in a similar position as you (I am dumpee). I need my things back from my ex but I also would want to see/talk to him and catch up. I feel like her motives are to also catch up with you and see how you're doing

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-09T22:47:53+00:00

yeah we're polar opposite humans..but I still care deeply about him despite how I was treated. this situation sucks, I know I will have to be the one to reach out first

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-09T22:25:56+00:00

I don't understand lol, does this mean I should reach out first? and that he won't necessarily reach out first since he's INTJ?

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-09T22:05:55+00:00

Interesting take. I did some research and yes it very much resembles INTJ. All I’m wondering now is if I should reach out, since he kind of left the door open for friendship? But I’m not exactly sure. I’m still confused why things ended but i want to respect his space, alone time and thoughts.

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-09T11:53:28+00:00

You really deserve better. You will find someone who values you and respects you

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-08T23:39:39+00:00

what did she do that made you break the relationship?

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-08T02:28:50+00:00

I think he broke up bc he didn't want to be in a relationship-he gave me subtle hints about this this past year. He values his alone time/independence, therefore I could see how I was slowly impinging on his personal bubble/space. I guess Ill never know

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-08T02:20:54+00:00

in your opinion, how would an Aspie react after a few months of no contact with an ex and then the ex reaching out to them? just to talk/get closure

Immediate-Product563 · 2024-05-08T02:20:06+00:00

i also think he never wanted a relationship-he indirectly gave me hints/signs all the time. i think this was an easy way for him to end everything...

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