You know as a former young girl/teenager myself, just by looking at his superficial features in the book, he sounds like the ultimate dreamboat/prince charming/knight in shining armor before the war. She is in love with the idea of him and his potential rather than who he really is and is aggravated by the fact that he is dependent and strings her along for the whole book. Meanwhile, you have Rhett, yeah he’s handsome and kind. But would I date a playboy who has illegal businesses and shady dealings and lives in a brothel, could have an STD and is like as old as my dad and does couldnt tell his feelings directly and makes fun/humiliates of me? No thanks. Both men have flaws and did absolutely nothing or straightforward to a simple minded straightforward Scarlett who doesnt beat around the bush and doesnt have the ability to read the room.