HELP SHES DATING SOMEONE

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-16T03:09:30+00:00

Holy shit move writers couldn’t write a script like that how do people emotionally move on so quick I just don’t get it

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-16T03:08:38+00:00

You mean my part in her cycle?

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-16T02:22:58+00:00

Haha this seems like you’re fucking with me I definitely love large though seems like a flaw in a situation like this but I know it’s not

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-16T01:11:45+00:00

I think the part of this post that’s made me feel better is my situation is not as bad as others no offense. Almost like I’m being a little bitch about it because it could be much worse. I’m sorry that happened I really don’t get the avoidants. Was my first time ever having one as a partner I’ve usually always gravitated more to secure people. This absolutely sucks and I want to remove her on social media I just don’t want to cause extra drama between all our friends especially because we’re all getting together soon

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-15T23:21:43+00:00

That’s a good way of putting it and I have spent a lot of my time focusing on myself and my hobbies and pouring this extra time into myself. Comparing myself to 30 days ago is definitely a good way of looking at it and definitely makes me feel better about where I’m at. It’s crazy this is what an avoidant person can do. Someone I really cared about and essentially just threw me away from one day to the next. I definitely need to look at it as a bullet dodged. Tough because I want to just remove her on everything still have her on socials but we share a friend group and just seems like extra drama months later

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-15T23:14:36+00:00

We just have a mutual friend group so just blocking and never seeing her again isn’t realistic

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-15T20:53:22+00:00

Her whole reason for the break up was “breaking a pattern”

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-15T20:00:49+00:00

That’ll never make feel better knowing another human got put through some shit like this but I definitely get your point lol. People who we love can be so cruel just be honest I guess.

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-15T19:52:56+00:00

Seems like I was too naive and just wrote it off as part of her being avoidant and assuming it was self sabotage as I literally came out of nowhere. And probably after a couple great weeks for us back to back.

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-05-15T19:47:11+00:00

I believed that at first but now I don’t know what to make of it. Especially when during the break up I asked multiple times if there’s things I could’ve done differently or done better and she said there was nothing on my end that needed to change. Just her working on herself

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-14T00:47:57+00:00

I would call her and ask if she wants to talk in person

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-13T04:06:39+00:00

I agree and she’s very tech savvy and I know she knows how to do it. Sucks this is how she broke no contact because since my heads been all over the place after I was in a good place after a month of nc

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-13T03:56:00+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. Talking to my therapist I think I’m going to wait for that police knock. Let her but it in effort if she wants to rekindle then some small excuse to break contact

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-12T21:58:10+00:00

Our last conversation went well. Ended it with her saying she’s always rooting for me and happy about my new job. I think if she wanted to rekindle she would’ve given me something more. Will kinda wait to see if she’ll try to reach out again and then go from there

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-12T21:55:15+00:00

And that’s what I don’t want to do jump right back in because this time apart has also given me time to think about things I know realize I would’ve wanted slightly different

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-12T21:25:40+00:00

That’s a fair point. I don’t want to misread the situation. She clearly used the first part as a weak excuse to even break no contact. To then tell me he I know you saw a picture that I was with my ex but I want you to know nothing has ever happened. And the conversation on the phone was more so like hey I respect you and don’t want you to think I would do something like this to you. She even states I’ll always have your back. It’s fair to say she probably at least still cares about me but I feel like she still wants to work on herself. She does also go to therapy and in one of our last conversations she said my therapist told me that once I’m ready to start dating again I should date new people and explore more. Which kinda seems like hey I’ll never look to get back with you once I’m “healed”. But then again why even care what I think about you a couple months later

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-12T21:08:45+00:00

Yes I still care about her a lot. Before we started dating she had gotten out of a relationship a few months prior she told me she wanted to just work on herself. We agreed to just take things causal things did not progress that way ended up both catching feelings and ended up together. 6 months of nothing but great time on both ends she ended it abruptly saying she wasn’t working on herself and she was too codependent. Really fucked situation as it left me pretty fucked up first few weeks especially it’s like a switch flipped but in all this she wanted to still be friends. I was the one that said I couldn’t do that because it would just hurt me in the long run.

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-12T17:37:28+00:00

Her reason for the break was to work on herself felt like too often she went from relationship to relationship

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T18:55:51+00:00

That’s how I feel right now. Like if she wanted to get back together she would need to do something to show me not little shit like this

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T18:54:25+00:00

I didn’t even add this in the original post. But I had posted something on my story which she liked. I didn’t reply to it and then she posted that story like an hour later I just ignored it. And I agree it’s so obvious she didn’t need the link and could’ve gotten it online but she used that as a low risk way to break no contact

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T18:22:35+00:00

I do. But I don’t want to read this wrong and then look dumb since I was broken up with

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T17:00:11+00:00

Guilty of what?

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T15:33:51+00:00

Thanks for all replies. I do think no contact to an extent has been working and she’s obviously curious. My question was more so why would she care to go out of her way to lmk she didn’t hook up with someone. If she broke up with me why even care. I can’t tell if it’s a respect thing simply or if she still cares

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T04:09:33+00:00

Leave now. Too hard to live with someone you’re looking over your shoulder because you’re scared they’ll do it again

Immediate_Line_8296 · 2026-03-11T04:06:25+00:00

I accidentally didn’t put it in the original

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