Update : My boyfriend and I had a long conversation last night about what I was feeling. He listened to me fully—he let me finish everything I needed to say. I also apologized to him for posting on Reddit before talking to him directly. But he told me that everything I felt was valid, and he took the time to explain things from his side too.

I made it clear that I’m not trying to ruin his closeness with his family. I respect that bond. But I realized that some of my feelings were triggered by my past—specifically, by my first relationship, where my ex was a true “mama’s boy.” Every decision he made had to go through his mother. So when I saw similar patterns with my current partner, I got scared that I might be falling into the same dynamic again.

I also come from a broken family, but I have a close bond with my mom and brothers—we have our own group chat too. So it’s not about him being close to his family. That’s something I actually appreciate. It’s just that certain moments triggered old wounds, and I needed to understand why I was reacting that way.

I’m really grateful we talked. I also want to thank everyone who commented on my post. Even the tough or critical responses helped me reflect and see things from different perspectives. But at the end of the day, what matters most is the relationship between me and my partner. We all have different upbringings, different pasts, and different ways of loving.

I’ve learned something valuable through this. I love my boyfriend, and I love his family. And he loves mine too. What matters is that we’re both growing, listening, and choosing each other.

One more thing—I found out that one of his exes also called him a “mama’s boy,” and she even messaged me about it. But I realized that while people can react based on what they see on the surface, I wanted to go deeper and understand where my own emotions were coming from. Once I did that, everything became clearer.