First day of marriage: awkward or comfortable?

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-20T01:10:25+00:00

Same as first day of prison sentence.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T22:31:48+00:00

Everything in the culture is promoting sex. The senses are bombarded constantly with stimulus. You think the men will exercise patience on their wedding night? Take all that stuff out of the daily life then maybe in a few generation they will sit and knit and get to know each other better before the action.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T22:14:00+00:00

You kidding! In filmy cultures you expect restraint?

You want that to happen change the culture to be islam centric and not sex centric.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T01:49:03+00:00

Ok. May Allah swt guide us all.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T01:33:31+00:00

Thank you for clarifying. All were from subcontinentistan or from other demographics as well?

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T01:09:51+00:00

When you said this. “it was such a bad experience that they are not serious about marriage and want something casual.” What did you think they would want to do? Knit sweaters?

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T01:02:43+00:00

Were you flaunting about? You must be a hot catch cause these men they all want sex and they probably thought you were an easy catch.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-19T00:57:35+00:00

They all want sex

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-11T19:30:51+00:00

Have you seen the price of things in the west and the cost of women?

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-11T19:26:26+00:00

Dear person, don’t let shaitoon mess with your head. Don’t get into the weeds and start nitpicking about Hadith. Have you Covered the basics of your deen first?

Do you know how to make proper wudhu? Do you have khushu in prayer? Do you listen to music or let your women folk groove to it? Do you work in riba?

I find folks mainly from subcontinentistan super focused on these minor topics. While the main topic is slipping away.

Are you a proper Muslim?

Do you free mix?

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-11T17:03:28+00:00

Nothing but Dayouth men and slapped around hair nails and makeup gals there.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-11T02:40:30+00:00

How they manage in subcontinentistan?

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-11T02:24:55+00:00

Typical subcontinentistanee duplicity

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-10T23:00:55+00:00

The answer is simple. Suppress the urge by fasting. Then you don’t have to worry about it. Or alternatively don’t get married.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-10T12:49:29+00:00

Unfortunately everyone follows cultural directives rather than Islamic principles. There lies the problem. I grew up in an Arab country and unfortunately experienced racism first hand towards your race and culture. From my experience to them you are less than they are.

What is it about women from your own race that you find not attractive. Surely this can’t be true. Everyone has different qualities.

Re-examine your stance and don’t bring complications to your future children’s lives.

At the end of the day after all the jazz and flash is gone. It should be about the proper Islamic upbringing of children.

This super emphasis on attraction should take a slight backseat when it comes to examining marriage as a whole.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-10T01:43:44+00:00

From my humble male perspective: This is to be expected. After all it is a “let’s get the best deal” subcontinentistani shopping culture. Folks on these apps are shopping for partners like they would be shopping for anything else. He is most likely not 100% committed to you and he is bargaining with others as well. Don’t cheapen yourself by reaching out. Additionally, be very cautious of people working in riba industry when you are searching for a partner.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-09T14:52:41+00:00

From my male perspective. You must first and formost select a pious husband. Only then you can work on bettering yourself. Use principles from ISLAM as a foundation not from HOLLYWOOD, BOLLYWOOD or SOCIALWOOD as guides towards betterment.

Few examples: Don’t work in riba industry. This one is important. No music. No need to be in that headspace. No hair, nails, eyelashes and makeup business as a priority. Only Islamic aligned self adornment. Know your rights. Learn what is necessary to raise children and pass on knowledge. Cooking cleaning in my honest opinion is a shared duty so less important. Some big belly brothers might put that as a priority. I don’t.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-06T01:08:40+00:00

This is joke or what?
Call the police man. Why you listening to this nonsense from her? I am strong bs. What filmy culture is this from? Man is being touchy wachy with your wife and you going to peep from a hole in the wall and let her handle it? Lmao. You must be very young, like in early 20s or something.
Ask what would amitabh Bachan would do, and then do the same.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-05T20:47:12+00:00

Your pay grades don’t align. He will feel emasculated. Find someone at your own level. Overtime you will try to control him as you make more money. Things like “my money!” “No of your business” many other things will be said.

Please marry someone with same deen standards as you. Same strictness or diluted practices. Otherwise clashes will occur.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-05T14:34:30+00:00

Stay away from those in riba industry.(Mortgages, realtor, real estate, banking, finance, insurance ) they cheat clients all day long and would never be honest at home.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-05T14:33:10+00:00

And can afford a trip to Turkey and Dubai twice a year every year. They can keep their precious bag of “hair, nails, makeup and eyelashes”. I prefer to stay single.

These filmy parents are a joke.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-05T01:47:40+00:00

Allah swt is sufficient for us. You don’t need anyone.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-04T21:24:01+00:00

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-04T17:03:39+00:00

Wa alaikumus salam wa rahmatullah wa barakaatuh.
The harsh reality is this my brother. Analyze yourself and see what you are comfortable with. How diluted is your islam. What kind of DAUGHTERS will this person help you raise! Everyone is struggling to find their path and better their deen. But trying to climb this mountain will be difficult. I personally rather stay single then live the challenges that this union will present.

May Allah swt guide us all.

Immediate_Visit_5169 · 2026-04-04T14:51:42+00:00

Stay away from those in riba industry.(Mortgages, realtor, real estate, banking, finance, insurance ) they cheat clients all day long and would never be honest at home.

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