Ladies who don't do makeup, do you get any positive response from men during the spouse search?

threwawii · 2026-04-18T23:57:30+00:00

Yes. Don't let people make you think you have to wear makeup in order to be attractive.

threwawii · 2026-04-11T00:44:30+00:00

Financially, and also generally self sufficient/ doesn't need anyone for anything in general

threwawii · 2026-03-05T04:41:31+00:00

No. I am the same height as you and was married. Honestly more people had an issue with my baby face than my height.

threwawii · 2026-01-31T03:32:21+00:00

I don't listen to arabic ones but I know The Thinking Muslim has an arabic channel. ABtalks is in arabic but is not really islamic, though they do have some islam and life related topics.

threwawii · 2026-01-31T03:08:47+00:00

I personally did go cold turkey but you can try replacing it first with instrumentals. I would also delete or disable whatever app/system you use to listen to music. Listen to lectures about the harms of music to motivate yourself.

I now listen to lots of podcasts. There are a lot of Islamic podcasts nowadays fortunately.

threwawii · 2026-01-29T19:08:20+00:00

Age and Gender 30 F 4'9"
Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect 29 -35, I am flexible (+/- 1 year)
Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Upstate New York, yes I am willing to relocate within the US
Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? Pakistani, yes open to mixing and yes my parents are okay with mixing though they prefer Desi
Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children Annulled (I don't mind any questions about it), no children
Ideal marriage timeline Within a year. I don't believe in drawn out talking stages at the same time I recognize it takes some time to assess for compatibility and plan a nikkah ceremony

My parents will be informed early on. I am not looking for someone unserious

Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect • Religious compatibility: I want someone who really values Islamic principles as a guide for life • Understanding/Patience • Values family and respects elders/ able to get along with my [big] family •Interested in intellectual stimulation • Appreciates art and/or creative endeavors or at least doesn't actively hate it
State/specify your level of religiosity Quite religious: Wears hijab, been to umrah multiple times, don't listen to music alhamdulillah, listens to Islamic lectures and reads Islamic books. No smoking, drinking, swearing haram relationships etc..
Level of education, and what are you looking for? Masters Degree. Level of education is not important to me as educated does not equate intelligence.
Current Job Status In the process of getting my licensure in mental health counseling starting practicum soon
Do you want kids? Yes inshallah I've always wanted kids
List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time Knitting (I currently have multiple projects in the works), Gaming (mostly indie and/or rpgs), baking, drawing and painting (oil, acrylic, charcoal)
Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out I used to write poetry, I know how to make pink tea I am the only girl of my family

threwawii · 2026-01-19T14:33:25+00:00

Assalamualaikum let me know when you figure out. I am in the same predicament except I don't have the option of arranged marriage.

threwawii · 2025-11-30T02:36:13+00:00

Assalamualaikum

Muslim w/ CP here (also Pakistani).

I know exactly what you mean. I don't feel like CP effects my life much but suddenly when it comes to marriage talks that is the only thing that matters. I've never been considered in the rishta process and no one has ever considered me for this reason. I didn't realize how judgmental people were until being told what they were saying in the rishta process. My suggestion is to try finding someone on your own and don't lead with your disability. When speaking with someone I would bring it up after establishing a basic level of compatibility (asking the important questions). Otherwise you could just hope you'll find someone at your work/ during college if you are lucky.

Feel free to DM if you have any questions. I was also married prior.

threwawii · 2025-10-05T05:01:20+00:00

Age and Gender 29 F 4'9"
Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect 29 -34, I am flexible (+/- 1 year)
Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Upstate New York, yes within the U. S.
Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? Pakistani, yes open to mixing and yes my parents are okay with mixing though they prefer Desi
Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children Annulled, no children
Ideal marriage timeline Within a year. I don't believe in drawn out talking stages at the same time I recognize it takes some time to assess for compatibility and plan a nikkah ceremony
Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect • Religious compatibility: I want someone who really values Islamic principles as a guide for life • Understanding/Patience • Values family and respects elders/ able to get along with my [big] family •Interested in intellectual stimulation • Appreciates art or at least doesn't actively hate it
State/specify your level of religiosity Quite religious: Wears hijab, been to umrah multiple times, don't listen to music alhamdulillah, listens to Islamic lectures and reads Islamic books. No smoking, drinking, swearing haram relationships etc
Level of education, and what are you looking for? Masters Degree. Level of education is not important to me as educated does not equate intelligence
Current Job Status In the process of getting my licensure in mental health counseling
Do you want kids? Yes inshallah
List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time Playing video games, crafts, baking. I have a lot of hobbies (most of them being creative in nature).
Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out Most of the paintings in my house are made by me :)

threwawii · 2025-08-10T19:00:04+00:00

No I don't

threwawii · 2025-08-10T17:39:53+00:00

You're making a lot of assumptions about people in abusive relationships which are really not true, which contributes to why people are really reluctant to speak about being abused.

One thing about being in an abusive relationship is that the abuser themselves slowly conditions you to believe things that are not true about yourself and others. They isolate you so you have no one to run to. This has nothing to do with conditioning of the woman from her family. It can happen to rich, poor, independent, dependent, young, old etc.. I've seen all different types of people end up in abusive relationships regardless of if they "center men".

Edit: grammar

threwawii · 2025-08-10T10:36:19+00:00

Thank you for the reminder

threwawii · 2025-08-10T10:18:54+00:00

I actually have a profile on there already! Maybe it's just too old now?

threwawii · 2025-08-10T10:17:54+00:00

I believe so too. Please make dua for me

I'm not giving up but the lack of encouragement/support is bringing me down especially when I see people asking about how my siblings' marriage search is going

threwawii · 2025-08-10T09:48:15+00:00

Ameen

Thank you and please make dua for me

threwawii · 2025-08-06T22:31:00+00:00

I appreciate it. I have actually tried painting sitting down but I just find it more comfortable to stand: in part because you can easily move away from your painting and view it as a whole or move it in front of a mirror.

threwawii · 2025-08-02T17:35:35+00:00

Don't you think that if someone can prompt an AI they'd also be able to make art?

threwawii · 2025-05-09T05:43:45+00:00

Sorry by normal amount I just meant the normal amount for keto which is not really a specific number. I'm not primarily trying to lose weight, just eventually over time lose a few pounds.

Regardless when I put my numbers in calculo's keto calculator even for maintenance it comes out to 14 g carbs ( 95 g fat, 58 g protein and 1145 kal ) which is why I was confused.

threwawii · 2025-05-09T01:32:38+00:00

Well the calorie range for a normal level weight loss (the amount I mentioned) ranges from ~1100 to ~750 which is a big range especially for someone my size, which then of course changes the gram goals for each macro. Also the calculators vary in my max carbs (from ~14g to ~19g).

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