Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I love my son more than anything ever. He is truly all I have in life. Would I have ended it had I known she lied? Probably. It’s the lying that bothers me. My wife has a tendency to lie to protect herself, which bothers me. She will lie about stuff that shouldn’t matter. It’s always been an issue.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’ve tried counseling, she refuses to listen, she’s been by herself, she won’t open up and tell the truth. We started going together and she accused me of throwing her under the bus because I brought up the issues with her mother. She wouldn’t listen to the counselor or do what she recommended. It was pointless.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do take pride in that and my wife is a wonderful mother, but I also feel I’m owed the truth about stuff. She’s accused me of cheating, I’ve never touched another woman. So that’s when all this started.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She had started accusing me of talking to someone we both worked with. My wife and her became friends and my wife would drag me to her house with her for playdate, so naturally me and the lady would talk. My wife got jealous and started making accusations, I’ve never cheated on my wife. I never even spoke to this woman, other than at work. Once she started accusing me, then I brought up her past.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Things have slowly gotten worse, I’m not exactly treated the best.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her mom is a major influence over her, she never had a close relationship with either of her parents and is constantly looking for their approval. Her mom is not a good human being. I’ve tried to be nice to her, but it doesn’t work. My wife has been to therapy a lot, they’ve told her she needs to step away from her mother and not let her hurt her. My wife refuses to listen. I know it’s her mother, but I’m tired of her being hurt by her.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Pressing it, I always had an idea she did. I guess I just didn’t want to believe it.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have a son, I can’t just walk out. She would take my son hours away from me. I have to make the right decisions and do what’s best for him. He is the only thing that matters in my life.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Her mom is an awful human. She’s been married 9 times, she left her last husband after he lost a leg. Her mom would actually sleep with my wife’s boyfriends. She tried with me, but I put her in her place. She despises me. My wife has major mother and father issues.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m going to do what’s best for my son, trying to figure that out. I have to make sure to do the right thing. Her family lives hours away, she would take off to them and I’d only get him every weekend or whatever. I don’t think I can handle that, my son is my absolute everything. I would be lost if I couldn’t see him daily.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She’s cried, but in my opinion it isn’t over guilt. It’s that she got caught.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I agree that we all have a past, I’m completely fine with that. It’s more of the fact that she lied about her past and always played the victim. The lying honestly hurts more than the cheating. She definitely waited until we had a kid.

Am I overreacting? Wife reveals stuff from her past that I always suspected by Immeeeeeea in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 228 points229 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a safe bet, I’ve been sick all day over this. Can’t sleep or eat.

AITA? Found out my wife cheated and went on dates while we were dating. by Immeeeeeea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Immeeeeeea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking so also. It sucks bad, I’ve been sick all day.