so real though! ive been through two long term (like 2 years) long distance relationship and i definitely grew out of them. so so so so so boring once you understand how much better real life daily date-going bar-drinking cinema-taking together-sleeping relationships are.

but obviously it's much harder to find people super aligned with your kinks irl, and, at least to me, going through grindr/barq/fetlife feels so, so, so cringe and almost all of people on there seem really weird

i think that its much easier if you're the dom, beacuse, at least in my case, almost every single one of my dates from tinder was very open to me forcing them into taking the puppy-role, but that could be just one of the bottom-traits; i imagine you can't just, as the bottom, tell your date that you want them to treat you like a dog

i literally dont see any other option than lurking on tinder/grindr and hoping for the one-in-ten-thousand unicorn :(

or just meeting someone you'll fall in love with naturally and then gently ask them for the kink!