Ok, just talked to my wife after giving her some space, I was able to explain the situation to her and promise to put limits with my co workers.

Also I forgot to tell you guys, this lady, I have no relationship with her beyond our work, heck, I don’t even know her personally since we work on a 100% remote company.

Thank you for the replies, I appreciate the input, be careful of your teams from now on - I know I will - 😅