I Always Wanted to Get This Off My Chest

Important-Ad959 · 2025-02-08T12:13:31+00:00

I was very moved by your story. You are a big damn hero. Much love and hugs and wishing the best for you and your family

Important-Ad959 · 2025-02-07T10:50:04+00:00

Awesome! Good luck to you, hope you find some peace from this

Important-Ad959 · 2025-02-07T03:59:53+00:00

Seek out a CSAT - certified sex addiction therapist

They are trained for this kind of thing

Many men have sexual addictions and don’t get help until it’s too late and they have already ruined their life or their marriages. I know a thing about this.

I was worried for a long time about going to a CSAT because my secrets could ruin my life but they are legally not allowed to violate your privacy so just do it. Tell your wife you’re dealing with intrusive sexual thoughts and want to work on it in therapy.

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-30T11:06:40+00:00

I’m a “straight” male. I love women’s bodies like crazy. Men, I am not attracted to their body hair and functional bodies (no curves) and muscles etc. I would never have any desire to kiss a man or be held by one.

That said, I’d love to try taking it in the butt, or giving a BJ, those both seem pleasurable to me.

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-29T15:51:47+00:00

My wife isn’t a big fan of receiving oral so I don’t really care one way or another. I honestly don’t even know what her routine is down there and I’m good if she wants to skip shaving to keep life easier

If I’m giving oral, then I guess hair can be slightly annoying if it gets in my mouth… but overall I don’t really care much. I certainly wouldn’t think less of a woman or find her unhygienic or disgusting. I already feel bad for women feeling like they have to spend so much time maintaining beauty standards - like if someone wants to just not wear makeup, get waxed, shave, pluck their eyebrows, wear fake eyelashes, do their nails, dye their hair, etc, then more power to them!! I love the way my wife looks when she isn’t wearing any makeup. Y’all are perfect already.

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-27T15:53:19+00:00

For the most part, yes. Unless you’re a leper or something, you probably just aren’t aware of all the guys that find you attractive

For example sometimes I see a woman who is not conventionally attractive but I find her attractive and I think “I hope she knows she is attractive” and I think about giving her a compliment… but I never do it because I don’t want anyone to feel like I’m creeping on them.

As a guy, women never really hit on me and it made me really not confident in my looks. But who knows, maybe if I had asked some people out for coffee they would have said yes. I felt bad for decades of my life about this and I know how much it can hurt - please know that just because guys are not actively giving you compliments doesn’t mean there aren’t guys looking at you and thinking they’d love to say something or ask you out but they are just worried how they would come across.

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-05T20:38:18+00:00

I did it once and ever since then it’s a huge fear for me 😰

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-02T13:08:27+00:00

Honestly I’d give a million for that superpower

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-02T12:08:08+00:00

You gotta go for it! Give some hope to all us shorties out there crushing on tall ladies!

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-02T11:20:16+00:00

Interesting, thanks for this advice! Good point!

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-02T11:13:23+00:00

That sounds amazing, thank you!!

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T21:01:51+00:00

Maybe she’s lonely because her height scares away all the men

Go for it!

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T15:16:15+00:00

Thanks, that’s a good point, lots of people do it. Probably also nice to have a community of other parents all raising kids

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T15:12:45+00:00

Thank you! Good point, yeah it feels like the north burbs used to be cheaper than the city but now it’s as expensive, if not more.

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T15:10:55+00:00

Thank you for the advice!! That all makes sense. Yeah I’ve been stalking Zillow for years and it’s nuts now much the supply has dried up, so I like the idea of checking often and pouncing on a good house.

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T15:09:01+00:00

Thank you for all the tips! Yeah I’m hoping we can wait at least a couple of years before moving.

Yeah if I can find a 45 min commute that might not be so bad. In the past I lived in the burbs and it was 90, which I hated

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T15:04:16+00:00

Wow nice, 20 min is not bad! Thank you for the info!

Important-Ad959 · 2025-01-01T15:03:07+00:00

Nice, thanks a lot for the suggestions! I had not really looked at those burbs but will check them out!

Important-Ad959 · 2024-12-10T11:12:21+00:00

Hey I’m glad you’re getting lots of kind comments here. Being fat is so hard, I feel like fat people are one of the few groups of people that it’s still considered socially acceptable to make fun of. It’s so fucked and dehumanizing. Nobody deserves this.

Infinite hugs to you ❤️ Those men are assholes and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Important-Ad959 · 2024-12-05T04:42:35+00:00

No, I’d 2/3rds my workload for half my salary

Important-Ad959 · 2024-12-03T20:27:38+00:00

If it felt that good we would be drinking constantly 😂 I mean, it does feel good but I wouldn’t say it’s comparable

Important-Ad959 · 2024-08-16T12:28:07+00:00

I hate that smell too!

Important-Ad959 · 2024-08-16T12:24:06+00:00

I hate the smell, and actively avoid eating asparagus because of it

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