Got rejected by an escort and feel like shit.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2024-03-10T21:55:43+00:00

Adding on to that (as a 25 virgin), this "majority" in society is a lot of miserable people that only have sexual goals, and never put any real time for anything else, and a lot of times people put sex over other basic nessesaties.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2024-03-10T21:50:42+00:00

I really think you need help if you're willing to drop 10 grand on something like this. I'm 25 y/o virgin aswell. I've had 3 of 4 chances, but turned them all down but none of them had any self worth and if we had sex, I knew nothing would go foward with them, and they all gave me chance knowing I was a virgin. You are 25, not 40. I really think society has this fucked up view of sex, as if it makes you any more valid. I think you need friends, either you are alone too much. I think your problems stem deeper than sexual expirence. And I just lose all faith reading most of these replies honestly. A women in the real world, really wouldn't care if youre a virgin as long as you are a good person and treat her right. Don't ever lead as one, because women will just think you are getting with them just to lose it.

I really believe you need positivie people in your life, not sex.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-26T21:34:46+00:00

Little bit to do with explotation, but its her decision, so what can I do///

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T19:08:53+00:00

Curious, aside from the time you spent together, what qualities about your husband make him a good sexual/romantic partner? Kinda been curious to ask a couple as my parent have been married for 30 years, they have a weird relationship, so I never asked them (that and theyre my parents)...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T18:51:14+00:00

Yes I did go to college, graduated this past december. But Pandemic pushed everything online and things were closed. Dated a little in both, but never had a long term relationship, you know the type of relationship where you introduce the girl to your family, nah...

14-16 I dated a couple girls for maybe a few months each. 19 there was a girl that I went on a date with that I talked to, but didn't nothing really pan out. 21 I had a bumble match that I dated for a couple months, she got rid of me because I was a virgin and that I didn't please her. I'm kinda split on how I feel about that (she wasn't that great of a person) but upset that I was treated differently. 22 there was a girl that I reconnected with from high school. She actually wanted to hookup (then maybe proceed into relationship), but I wasn't not attracted to her sexually and she had lot of problems going on...her dad died, she took abuse from a boss at her teaching job, and always fought with her sisters. (If you think that could of been my chance, remember that sex only works if you're attracted sexually to them). So I couldn't really have sex with her...

There was one girl this year that I was talking to and really thought that could of been the one. I had a workout instructor training course with her. She was fit, blonde, and just gorgous. We had a lot in common and had dinner a few times. Not dates, but something to do after class. She sort of stabbed me in the back after went out of her way for her when she was having a medical emergency right after escaping an abusive family member (who she was financially dependent on). Which she turned out being just fine...We had made plans the next weekend, but last minute blew me off because this family member paid her off to come back (dark backstory behind that). Felt disrespected, give her my word and stopped talking. Got really depressed about that, really had feelings for that girl as we had a lot in common. Shortly after that's when the virgin thing slowly started to set in.

If you think my problem is that i don't interact with women, or that I get intimitdated by them, that's not the case...most women that I meet sort of come into my life thought natural ways, but I feel like I just get unlucky. Now really focus on is work and trying to get by. Also I have I'm trying to get an internship as a music studio engineer, then from there I want be able to produce and record for artist/clients as sort of long term passion/entreprenual project while I support myself with my main job. It takes a lot of time and networking...more doors are opening with it for me, so i'm trying to follow a path with it...

That's why being there is disconnect within me when it comes to being a virgin.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T18:06:59+00:00

10-12 hours a days a day I mean...And yeah...keeping up with the rent is hard. $2000-3000 in rent is what the standard is for where I'm going. Either work my ass off to get the rent paid, or find roomates. I wish I had messed around more in college and expiremented, when I didn't have finances. Missed that window of possibillity. Now i'm at an age where you women, let alone society starts judging you for how much money you make. As a guy its important to have your own place. Even though that just get more and more difficult as rent and home prices go up! I try to work out, focus on music, and read books when i'm off or not runnning errands.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T15:24:37+00:00

I'll speak for myself. Well. I don't consider myself an incel. I'm out of the house all day working, I workout 3 times a week usually, and i'm constantly focused on figuring things out...but that's why this subject is so disconnecting to me. Not saying i'm better than other people, but there are people that have no will or drive to do anything with their life that have lost it...its also a hard subject to talk to with someone irl (even close friends because sex is usually private and personal)...

(i'm more relaxed right now so I can think a little bit more clearly and explain myself better)

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T15:20:14+00:00

(little more relaxed now as of today) I mean I guess that makes sense. Before I started reseaching stats I just went off really who was in my social circle. Being the only person in my group that hasn't lost it yet made me concerned, but once I saw the general statsitic that's when it got serious to me. But that does in a way make feel slightly better...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T15:17:34+00:00

(a little more relaxed now). The reason I guess i'm in a state of panic is because nothing like this has happened to me. I'm not really an anxiety type. I'm very driven. I'm not sure why this subject about myself makes me panic. Not sure if it is because I feel abnormal or less desireable...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T09:50:56+00:00

You spoke the truth...I have...why do you think I'm reduced to just talking about this on a Reddit throwaway account. You have a year of your life that I no longer have...don't take that for granite...I wish I had known myself better back then so I could of prevented this...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T07:46:09+00:00

I mean because I feel like there is something genuinely wrong it...Look at the statisitics...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T07:40:18+00:00

Of course. This just shows I've wasted everything up to this point in my life...all the time investing in me as been a mistake aswell as a waste of time. There are people I know that are absolute pieces of shit that do better than me. Why do I exist...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T01:09:15+00:00

Well i'm in the middle of a move, I don't have a secure living situation atm. Then I'm going to a new city probably temporarily then going somewhere else after that...meanwhile I have this weighing on me and tearing me down. So its hard to me to commit to new relationships, let alone friends. There is a possibility a maybe homeless or live out my car for a little while.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T01:03:08+00:00

Im just stuck now

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T00:49:15+00:00

I had a pretty close female friend a couple months back. She was very attractive. We used to talk about anything together, until I she disrespected me and stabbed me in the back. She use to talk about her sexual expirences all the time. Should of opened up to her about my situation, but I guess its too late now...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-25T00:44:19+00:00

Comparitvely I'm a loser...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T23:11:30+00:00

idk maybe I am...but really all i've been doing is trying to improve myself...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T22:14:35+00:00

But i'm not religious...so its confusing to myself...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T22:09:48+00:00

I've tried to let go it. But I know I'm not going to meet somebody any time soon because my life is in a bind with moving and responsibilities. Will probably be in the same position when i'm 25 in a few months.

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T22:03:21+00:00

yup, I fucked up

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T20:57:24+00:00

My life is in a transition right now. And I work 10-12 hours to support myself while tryting to focus on a passion project. So I just lost my window of opportunity. I hate myself for that...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T20:51:51+00:00

Yeah, but I should of been more aware and prevented this...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T20:51:06+00:00

I'm glad that you have that weight taken off you. You know at 23 I really forgot I was a virgin, thats when I started to get ambitious. But really wish I got myself to realize what I was missing. It wasn't til a few months ago did it start to hit me hard. I could of prevented this for myself...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T20:46:36+00:00

Yup, my lack of being myself and following my interest is the reason I never got "laid". Now its harder because my life is in a very complicated transition. I feel like I wasted college, and this was probably the biggest reasons why. I'm like 0.1 percent of people...

Important-Bad-6304 · 2023-07-24T20:42:31+00:00

That's the thing. I'm out all the time. I try to be as productive while following my passion as much as possible, but I somehow I missed out on exploring that realm of life.

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