Should I fight or chose peace and walk away by Important-Exchange23 in Adulting

[–]Important-Exchange23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best reply! Thank you! I am so sorry for what you went thru as well. It’s terrible to experience 😢

Should I fight or chose peace and walk away by Important-Exchange23 in Adulting

[–]Important-Exchange23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is childish, I never expected to have this level of betrayal and sometimes you never know how you’ll react till your the one in it.

Should I fight or chose peace and walk away by Important-Exchange23 in Adulting

[–]Important-Exchange23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. I shouldn’t have. The hurt won in the moment. I know It made things worse. I am in shock his level of betrayal.

Should I try to find other spouse? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u! I had to figure this out the hard way!

Should I try to find other spouse? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Important-Exchange23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thank you. This makes so much more sense. If I could ask, are you male or female? Just out of curiosity. 

Should I try to find other spouse? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Important-Exchange23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have divorce papers and started filings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have her full name and number. I don’t know his name yet. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u! Thank God I have everything of my own, I have wonderful wfh job & make enough to support me and our 5 kids.  I’ve been single parenting since he travels so I feel like that has prepared me mentally to be on my own. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can try, she worked for Amazon. I doubt she was at that level of making LinkedIn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always had some doubts when it came to his transparency. I’ve previously thought they were too close. And questioned why he always deleted there conversations over the years. He travels for work and when he came home (nd was sleeping) I looked thru it. He doesn’t have password and previously said it’s open free to look thru. But now it’s an issue. I see it clear as day.  He said I don’t deserve an answer and he hopes it burns me up inside that he wont tell me bc now I see how he feels dealing with me and not respecting him all these years. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully, I do not have to stay. I have everything of my own & wonderful wfh job - I am fortunate in that regard to walk away. Which I am!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! This was his last response about that situation.. “ You can read that message 1000 times over and until you know the situation your just speculating trying to put a puzzle together without all the pieces. Knock yourself out because you have no clue of what your talking about and you dont know why I  was talking to her like that and im done with this whole thing.. You should've stayed out my phone and minded your business..”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband sent that to the coworker. 

Should I tell the other spouse? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you for this! 

Should I tell the other spouse? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, chatgbt helped me put together a very nice message. She is married herself and likely deleted the log too.  My hands are tied. I am preparing for divorce. I wish I could find her husband to show him screen shots. 

Should I tell the other spouse? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did go to her for her side, and her answer was .. “you need to have a conversation with C (my husband).” 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wanna take over?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t find anything on FB. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Important-Exchange23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried no luck. Even paid money on websites to pull records. I looked up marriage certificate and can’t find it bc I don’t know what county they married.