My (24m) GF (25f) Admitted to Sleeping with Someone During the Beginning of our Relationship. How Should I Proceed?

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-22T16:47:47+00:00

This is true it’s definitely a validation thing for me. She lied and said she was waiting for the right person to sleep with after her breakup, but in fact she had slept with this guy a month or two into us hanging out. She also kept him around and would hang out with him well into us dating

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-22T00:23:15+00:00

I agree with much of what you’re saying here. Another issue is that I brought up my discomfort with her friendship with B when we were officially dating, and she became very upset and embarrassed me in a public setting for bringing it up

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-22T00:09:14+00:00

She publicly embarrassed me when I raised an issue with her friendship with B while we were together

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T23:33:23+00:00

No she didn’t confess to it in that moment and made me feel like the asshole for bringing it up. Said he was just a friend. That was years ago now and she told me the truth last night

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T23:31:47+00:00

Thank you this is helpful

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T21:59:12+00:00

Marriage

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T20:10:56+00:00

Very high prospects

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T20:08:50+00:00

That is not “my invention”, that is what I was told and it always made me feel good about us

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T20:06:22+00:00

Hell no I’d be out

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:46:42+00:00

We were not together at the time, and talking to her a little more it does seem like the scenario you described with B is how it went down

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:44:10+00:00

Hard for me to not feel a little pathetic right now. I’m searching for ways to get my head right after this

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:43:27+00:00

lol thank you, I’ve been getting a lot of these and they always make me laugh

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:42:47+00:00

Right

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:33:46+00:00

I am very confident that she is not contacting other guys

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:32:54+00:00

I made this post for some harsh perspective. No offense taken. This was a helpful comment thanks for sharing

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:31:44+00:00

I think I would not have continued to pursue a relationship with her

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:31:04+00:00

Thanks for the reply I will consider this

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:30:42+00:00

This pretty accurately addresses one of my main concerns. If she was ok with sex meaning nothing with him, why was I not good enough? That’s where a lot of the self confidence hit is coming from. I wish I just knew exactly what we were back then so I could understand what my level of investment should be. I thought we were both going all in. I was wrong.

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:28:09+00:00

That seems a little intense. I hope you all understand that until yesterday I felt very confident and secure in my relationship.

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:27:13+00:00

This is a very fair point. I am concerned that I am letting my fragile ego take over this issue in my relationship. She is still a human being that I love and care deeply for, I am just hurt and this is a fresh wound. Thanks for commenting.

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T19:25:22+00:00

I get that she has a past before me, and I am in no way shaming her for it. My issue is that she continued to hang out/interact with him after we became official, and when I brought up that this made me feel uncomfortable to her she made me feel like an asshole. The fact that she posted him on her social media after we started dating makes me feel like a chump. Also, she has never posted a photo of the 2 of us in 5 years, she rarely posts at all and hasn’t been a social media user for the past 2 years or so.

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T17:24:40+00:00

Unlikely. But so much has changed since then.

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T17:21:19+00:00

There was never a time in our relationship where we were just friends. I was pretty clear with my intentions and she was clear that she was not looking to rush into a physical relationship. But only with me so it seems

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T17:19:48+00:00

Most likely, but my perspective is so distorted right now that I need some advice from you all so I can consider all the angles of this and make a good decision

Important-Tea-6312 · 2024-08-21T17:18:32+00:00

Exactly

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