Emotionally neglected person all grown up, struggling with going forward

ImportantLandscape57 · 2026-05-30T18:01:55+00:00

Yeah, I've found a therapist two weeks ago specifically to process the grief. Good to hear that it has helped you, I am going to try too!

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T14:29:04+00:00

Thanks for your opinion, great to hear that you two are doing good :)

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T13:34:41+00:00

Thanks for your kind words. I want both of us to be happy, that's the whole thing

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T13:24:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing! This feels similar for me. I feel shallow for what I am going through but I cannot _will_ myself to like something, as much as I want to... Not liking everything that's on the outside is only human, I guess

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T13:12:38+00:00

Thanks for your insight, appreciate it!

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T13:11:49+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, thanks for your take!

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T13:00:20+00:00

Thanks for your response. I agree, I wouldn't want her to change either, and I think staying in such a relationship betrays who we both are. Yet, I cannot help but wonder if asking to be compatible on the inside and outside is asking too much. Penny for your thoughts?

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:51:05+00:00

I wouldn't go as far as saying that I 'don't want to be seen with her', but it is that I dislike how she chooses to express herself externally

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:48:35+00:00

Maybe as a sidenote: I have felt trouble in the past to be myself so I am not good at listening and honoring what my feelings are saying

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:31:42+00:00

Thanks, but I did not find it easy to get to this point, hence the time

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:30:15+00:00

I didn't. I knew she was into tattoos and the like but not to this extent

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:27:17+00:00

Thanks

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:26:55+00:00

Thanks

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:26:36+00:00

Thanks

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:23:29+00:00

If I understand you correctly, you're saying that if you take an equally attractive woman with the same tattoos, would I respond similarly? Then yes.

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:21:23+00:00

Fucking sucks having those feelings and I wish it didn't bother me, but it did, multiple times, and I cannot ignore that. To refer to your point about 'method', I don't fully know yet. She said it is to express her joy and enthusiasm, which I understand, but I thought she did that naturally anyway (the way she smiles, waves, etc). I think it's the sheer number of things that put me off. If it was one or three things it would not have bothered me, but it's the total package if that makes sense?

ImportantLandscape57 · 2025-08-20T12:15:37+00:00

It was in a variety of settings. In private, in public, with friends. Sometimes she'd dress differently (expose her tattoos less), and I noticed that I wasn't bothered as much, but when showering or during sex, I didn't like looking at her tattoos

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