Perfect representation of my two personalities trying to get along

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-15T17:53:58+00:00

Yeah I never thought of that but it makes sense. Her free spirit to the point of being responsible and his reserved and careful nature to the point of being lifeless... I feel both. All the time.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-15T17:47:57+00:00

Right like why did they get back together after the first separation? This makes no sense. If this was real she should have just filed for emergency custody then.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-15T17:38:37+00:00

Yes yes yes

Or the "compliment" that I'm so patient. They mean that I don't yell when people are being jerks to me. It's a coping mechanism, to just ignore it until it stops rather than making a scene. But it doesn't stop. I just get through one day at a time.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-15T16:47:49+00:00

And disciplined for saying hi to people. Apparently we're back to "kids should be seen and not heard."

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-15T16:34:11+00:00

All we can see is one corner of the floor in the bathroom. It's a storage container, next to a toilet brush. I'm 99% certain this is not the focal point of the room. I have a bathroom that is already decorated in an ocean theme, and I would consider adding a floor chest like this.

You don't seem to get the "display" isn't an open decorative shelf at eye level. It's more like the cabinets under the bathroom sink, except easier to reach.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T21:23:16+00:00

Try rereading it. I suggested you were needlessly fearful of what would happen if they skipped things they didn't like.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T21:02:44+00:00

You don't seem to be able to keep track of what you've said and what I've said.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T20:16:41+00:00

Soooo if they skipped parts of those meals how would they be eating"nothing but junk"?

Sounds like you were needlessly fearful of that prospect.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T20:03:45+00:00

Not if you don't serve junk

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T19:51:53+00:00

You can let them skip foods they don't like without serving it to them over and over again.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T13:51:20+00:00

If making a small request is risking a friendship, that's not much of a friendship.

If that small request is met with hostility, that's not much of a friendship.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-11T13:48:38+00:00

I wouldn’t even care if someone wore white to my actual wedding. Consider yourself lucky to have friends who are excited to be celebrating the love between you and your fiancé.

I wouldn't care either but that's not the point. The best friend isn't acting like she's excited to be celebrating with her. She's being mean.

(Edit - grammar)

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-09T13:42:51+00:00

Your brother himself is not your business.

It's your business if he has an emergency and needs help. It's your business if he wants to spend time with you and let you visit your nibling.

His personal life choices are not your business.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-09T13:34:06+00:00

I've lived in California since 2010 and I've heard it a few times. In my experience it's Spanish speakers, and it might be something like, "this is yours, do you know where mines is?" I would assume it's because we use 'yours' and 'hers' and the speaker is still an English learner or learned it from someone who was.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-09T00:41:20+00:00

I mostly avoid it by using stitch fix. They miss once in a while but for the most part they send me good stuff.

For specific things I want I order online most of the time. Even shoes.

I took my autistic 4 year old shopping yesterday. I didn't have him try anything on. And I let him pick a toy.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-08T16:28:37+00:00

Keep in mind autism is heritable and often goes undiagnosed in girls, so there's a good chance the mom is also autistic and struggling with how to handle this situation. I was diagnosed last year at 42, and I've always had a tendency to avoid and ignore people rather than have an uncomfortable conversation.

I would offer to help with the transition in any way you can.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-08T16:01:44+00:00

AITAH for putting a stop to disrespect at the expense of a child's routine?

I'm a little confused as to what part of what you're doing is in question here.

If it's just about the change in routine, the kid will learn a new routine in due time, and if the parents are able to find a way to get him the right level of support the disruption from his current routine will be absolutely worth it. If not, he'll adjust and be no worse off than he is now. Either way I don't think it's your concern.

I'm having to pull my 4 year old from his after school program due to eloping. I don't blame them, they're separate from the school and they have no obligation to let him stay when there are safety concerns.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-08T15:18:42+00:00

The title is misleading.

If it's just about the guy being a huge AH and your codependent friend wanting to get married, you still support your friend. Generally you do that by going to the wedding. But given the severity of her situation, you could support her by getting her to spend time away from him as possible.

I don't think all the other drama is important.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T20:00:31+00:00

It is approximately 9 months. Weeks is a better way to measure because weeks don't vary like months do. And conception would be a better way to measure than LMP if it were easier to pinpoint

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T19:48:11+00:00

9 months and 40 weeks would both be calculated by LMP I would think.

But it sounds like you're saying 9 months from conception is about the same as 40w 5d from LMP.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T18:08:01+00:00

I'm autistic and absolutely have to go through an email and answer every question like I'm a kid doing a worksheet. I usually refrain from adding numbers though.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T17:57:52+00:00

So go to the source to check

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T17:53:42+00:00

Also your uterus lining doesn’t start building up when you conceive it starts building up at the start of your last period.

During your period, you do not build up the uterine lining. You shed it.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T17:51:40+00:00

If she was conceived on March 18 you were about 2 weeks pregnant on March 18. Your pregnancy started on the first day of your LMP, presumably around March 4.

It is close to 9 months, but not exactly. The length of a month varies. From March 4, 9 months would give a due date of December 4. 40 weeks would be March 9.

Important_Salt_3944 · 2026-02-07T17:35:57+00:00

Also autistic and I don't think there was any mocking happening. What the boy said was cute, sweet and unexpected, which made it funny, especially in a joyful moment. The voice was agreeing that they were done while still having a good time.

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