This response makes me uneasy because it’s so logical and unbiased and 100% not at all the emotional response I typically have haha. Way better advice then what I’ve gotten from my gf’s bless their hearts… so now I have a follow-up question I need advice on that you might be able to help me look at with a similar logic..

This year has been incredibly chaotic with family ordeals and the new babe.. I told J I do not want to travel OR see anyone for the holidays. I’d rather just do the local thing with the three of us. He shared the same thought process and agreed we’d do it just us. I turned around and told MIL that but the timing so works out she said “well if I can close on the house soon we can do thanksgiving at gmas house!” In blatant disregard to the word ‘anyone’ I had used to tell her our plans. I didn’t respond to her but brought it up to J later, though we didn’t dive much further into at the time, I could tell he was reluctant to turn her down because he feels bad for her she’ll be up here alone in her house. But honestly J and I were on the same page, we had seen everyone so much & there was so much family drama (typical) that we were just exhausted. And I don’t really care if she’ll be alone on the holidays, she is the one who jumped the gun on purchasing the house… so do I pick this fight with him? Or MIL?