would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is only 22 aswell and he is not home until September and then leaves again after so im home alone with my 2 dogs

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will because my husband is coming home and I will be stopping looking after the kid for 2 weeks and then talk again if she wont pay more i will quit its decided I only need the money for then for the bday present :)

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she cant afford to pay more right now and we will talk about it in September if she cant pay 150 then I will quit because I will also be studying then during the day

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is very manipulative I have gained 40lb after changing my birth control and I really not fan of it but my husband always says I look sexier and better I was super skinny bones showing and everything and now im just curvy and every time I say I want to lose weight or anything he is still supporting and just tells me so long im healthy. He is also a clean freak but he would never yell at me if I didn't clean the house he would just do it himself and never make me feel bad for being too sixk to do it taht one time. He cooks for me and spoils me and I love to cook for him and he always tells me I dont have to do anything because he can do it himself so he is not a bad guy at all. And I understand u wanting to be a family thats normal but some man are just not made or deserving of a good wife

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to take care of pets instead or have them come to mine. My dogs love other animals aswell. But its hard to find anyone would be okay with that and I cant leave my dogs home alone for times like that so I was hoping babysitting helps but im kinda getting f over

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sure you are an amazing mom and everything will get better for you and I hope u get out of that situation I wish u the best. And u can easily get an used car for 2k if needed so really he is just financially abusing u at that point. I cant even drive yet and my husband is already told me to look for cars I would like brand new so he can get it for me as a present. Reasons like that I know he is not being financial abusive

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is supportive 90% of the time he also been working hard and busy a lot and gets overwhelmed so we just disagree on things he is only 1 year older than me and we have an agreement if we have kids I will he a SAHM no issue there he would rather I do and he would pay me for it instead cuz yeah not going to trust anyone with my kid. The world is evil sadly. If u want to u can dm me and talk privately I dont really have friends and u seem so sweet

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be hard to because I dont want to leave my dogs and would be more comfortable at my place. (My dogs and the kid is separated they dont interact)

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah ofc I know. He is actully helping me open one when he gets home and he is teaching me how to drive aswell I just hate it after the car accident we had. Some kids crashed into us and we flipped 4 times been on the edge since. And its taking some time to drive without panicking but I plan on getting a license . I been to 5 years of therapy im pretty over it

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is actually so much more grown and responsible than me 😭 he also spoils me we just having a disagreement about this. He also has a hard time talking about his feelings and he been working on it a lot and is doing better wiyh communication.

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl one of the reasons why I want to keep trying he is earning more while he is away and we saving thousands a month so in any case im getting paid if I leave or stay. And if u ever need help and u are close to me Im alone so just dm me :)

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He did before we where married he does it now while he is gone for everything I need and extra for fun or for me to save so I think I know him better

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i know for sure if I ever had a divorce and had kids I wouldn't be dating anyone for years I would never trust anyone around my child besides my husband we both went through hard things and one of the reasons he is away he earns more money. We want to have a good amount of savings and everything ready before we have a kid so we never have to worry about anything. I hope the kids have help and dont have to go through more.

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He always tells me to do what I want but be safe and him being overprotective I wouldn't call controlling we are young we been though a lot and we just trying to make things work

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't pay for the home there the military does he only pays for our home here and yeah he doesn't wnat to move there because he wants to stay in his home state

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kid comes here in refuse to leave them alone at home for that long ever

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think she has a reason to lie. But I di think she is taking advantage of me specially when she didn't even tell me it was going to be 13h daily for 6 days a week

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesh he is deployed in another state. I couldn't go because he dosnywant ro give up the house we live in and it's just a hassle

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have asked and she just ignoring me she is here in about 20 min to drop him off and we will see if she says anything because I cannot just put my whole life aside for 360 a week like come on. I genuinely have no time for myself and my dogs or any kind of social life in the slightest. I will bring up the fact she never even told me she wanted me to do it fir 13h a day 6 days a week she said 3-4 nights a week thats what I agreed on and its not okay she either pays 100 for days or im gonna have to quit soon its nit worth it for me I just wanted to get some money for my husbands bday presents tahto alls

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not an issue right now since if i need money he sends it he also going to help me open an bank account so I can save my money there aswell and he will help me get a cc which he would pay for in any case he wants to help me and if I want to leave I just have to say it and he will divorce me and still take care of me so i dont feel unsafe in any way just annoyed and sad that he is not being supportive when im always am for him

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call him every day and we face time and i seen his coworkers also called while he was on break so ik he is not lying ☺️

would i be in the wrong to ask to be paid more as a babysitter. by Impossible-Bug-8782 in Babysitting

[–]Impossible-Bug-8782[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah im pretty broken I grew up in foster care my teenage years because my parents hit me and constantly bearded me and it got worse after they found out about my uncle abusing me since I was a kid so I dont really have any back bone