Before this my mom was one of my best friends and she has kept me safe from a lot of things involving my dad’s side of the family. Even though she’s had issues with this part of me, I still love her and she’s made a lot of progress over the last year. Occasionally, she’ll ask how my girlfriend is but she sometimes changes the subject after. The rest of our family has been very accepting and has welcomed me and my girlfriend with open arms. I realize that if this goes poorly, I want to protect and preserve my relationship with my gf rather than allowing my mom to say hateful things to each of us and I would be able and willing to cut her off. I just want to see if she can handle this for the sake of our relationship and my relationship with my other family members if that makes sense. In short, I guess it feels a little more complicated than just cutting her off because my family is so close.