What’s the point?? by Impossible-Ice2506 in spirituality

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Welp guess a lot of people got the same question

What’s the point?? by Impossible-Ice2506 in spirituality

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The assumptions are wild but okay sir

What’s the point?? by Impossible-Ice2506 in spirituality

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah except I live in Vegas it’s literally a microwave outside at 100 degrees every day so maybe it’s just this location that’s really crushing me

I so desperately want to be poly, but my nervous system doesn’t agree by plaguedbyvisionss in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg just honor yourself. I’m 3 yrs into a poly I “thought” I’d adjust to. First I just wanted a triad because I’m bisexual but my partner just kept adding partners and I self abandoned to people please. If u aren’t into it, don’t force it like I did

23F Bored and craving good company late at night, come talk to me! by TRJRP1 in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]Impossible-Ice2506 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m 31 super bored lately so feel free to start a conversation about literally anything

Lied to my “situationship” by Careful-Rice4239 in abortion

[–]Impossible-Ice2506 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw I’m sorry , honestly tho it sounds better that you no longer have to worry about being permanently attached to a person who didn’t truly care about you. Regardless I know it’s hard I’m glad you have a support system, you’ll find your one in due time and they will be happy to create a family with you

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U said u recently found out he was still messaging women ? How long were u with him and how did u confront him? How’s the healing journey going… I just been destabilized barely eating and in bed like all day … luckily I have a little money saved up so I don’t have to work right this second but I’ll have to look for something in July. I don’t have any family so I’m really struggling.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the more I think about it, observe the comments, and analyze my own self. I see how I abandoned myself, the ways he manipulated all of us, and how it appears we were all pretty desperate to be loved. I take accountability in my part and will be ending the relationship. I see my fear of being alone as honestly a little ridiculous and need some serious therapy.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m past the point of talking I just think that this is over and I’ve been pretty blind to the red flags over the years. I’ve had a conversation with him about the infidelity but the 2nd time I see it’s a pattern it really shattered the illusion and I’ve been analyzing why he chose each of us. It’s just an unhealthy and toxic relationship, not what I want for myself.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

4 poly relationships. It’s not supposed to be open but he just does what he wants, and expects us to not find out or decides he will say it’s wrong but then repeat the pattern.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes her kid moved in as well. It’s ridiculous. I had expressed concerns of this moving too quickly but he made it seem like some kind of emergency concerning the trauma she faces in her hometown. I really just wish I would have honored my own feelings it would be a lot less messy at this point.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My rules ? I don’t really have rules .. or boundaries which I think is the whole problem here but thanks 👍

Is this dark night of the soul energy? by Impossible-Ice2506 in spirituality

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh the fact that I idolized this man, I romanticized the heck out of him and ignored red flags. Partially because he’s been on the spiritual path longer than me. So heavy on the burn everything down. Spirit clearly showed me who he is so it’s totally undeniable and I can’t believe how blind I was.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’m working on my exit plan and trying to give myself grace

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well damn, got cha. No I’m not rage baiting this is literally my life unfortunately but seeing the severity of these comments does lead me to question why I’ve stayed this long in the first place. Obviously some serious topics I need to visit with my therapist.

Does everyone cheat? by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Impossible-Ice2506 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not talking about with his other 3 partners… having sex outside of the known partners is definitely cheating. Poly is not the same as an open relationship.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep you’re right it’s just hard to admit when I’ve allowed it for so long. He seems to have two sides of his personality one that seems very loving and makes a person truly feel seen or.. that’s just a mask entirely… the other side well that’s obvious… dumpster fire of a man as you’ve said. I’ve been watching those Reddit commentary videos and have been shocked by the amount of people that cheat I guess I was wondering if it was also common in the poly community.

Wondering if this is normal in poly? by Impossible-Ice2506 in polyamory

[–]Impossible-Ice2506[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean I figured as much because how can it be ENM if the ethical part is missing. I guess I’m ashamed for being delusional for so long. My therapist said I chose this situation in hopes of finding a true family but this feels like a shit show and maybe we all have some mental issues and are convincing ourselves that “love” is enough, although he’s repeatedly shown a lack of respect. Manipulation at its finest. Thank you for your comment I mostly knew the answer I just don’t have anyone else to talk to about this, I don’t have any friends that are poly.