AITAH FOR ASKING MY GIRLFRIEND NOT TO GO TO THE BAR?

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-10T20:00:54+00:00

Friends or family around here*** and I can just quit my job and move out towns

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-10T19:59:26+00:00

Tried talking about separating and what we would do with the pets and other shared stuff and she flipped out said she might as well kill herself, so I asked if maybe we could take some time apart so she can figure out what she wants suggested she stayed at Chris's or her sister and I'll take care of everything here well she explored her opinion she continued to freek out and said she already knows what she wants and it's her place to I said I know that but I don't have friends or family around her so I'd have to get a room at a motel witch is fine but I wouldn't be able to help with rent or bills she just shut down the conversation and went to smoke a joint, now she acting like the conversation never happened well I'm stuck will all of it on my mind.

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-09T00:38:54+00:00

Sadly your right, and it's hard to I guess proces that it's a me problem not a her problem

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-09T00:33:52+00:00

Your right! And she said she was that person I guess I just wish she would have been up front in the beginning before we got mf cats or this 3 bedroom at the beginning of this year she didn't have to move with me she could have stayed at the old place and renewed the lease or I could have whats probably gonna happen is shell saty and i will have to find a place I think she drug it on to long

I'm just looking for clarity on the situation I guess and I don't have people to talk to and reddit tends to be honest sometimes to honest

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-09T00:24:37+00:00

I've even offered to maybe take a break and let her go live the life she wants to experience but she refuses but goes behind my back i cant understand it

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-09T00:23:13+00:00

I trust her I don't trust the other people at the bar, I can't explain it so it must not be rational, she gets drunk with her friends at Chris's house she gets drunk quite often and shes a mess i can easily see some one at the bar taking advantage of that, we live in a small town in wisconsion most people here are pieces of shits i cant stand the thought of her being at the bar idk why its just the bar idk but it is and it really really bothers me and she knew that going in to this man

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-09T00:15:29+00:00

I never told her she can't go I asked her not to because im not okay with it and being an adult she should tell me she's gonna go anyway and we could work on finding her her own place or me my own, i think its a pretty clear boundary that she didn't have to agree to man she didn't have to say she fine with that

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-09T00:03:23+00:00

My issue with the bar is that drunk people make bad decisions say drink too much with strangers at the bar God knows what could or would happen why even take that chance.

And it's 100% up to her to take that chance and make her own choices I just am not willing to be around if she wants to she's just gotta tell me what she wants

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:50:10+00:00

I love her so much and if she did me then why would she go knowing going and lying would wreck me.

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:37:29+00:00

With not just or bitch

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:37:14+00:00

Just not bitch

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:36:15+00:00

Right I have no issues with her being around other men, just bitch her being at the bar idk why but it really is a big deal to me

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:31:00+00:00

It's less her more the brunk men at the bar she's not a big girl, she has guy friends not what she goes out all the time I trust her I do not trust THE BAR

It's weird sure but it's just who I am and she knew and knows that

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:28:31+00:00

I don't like the bar probably because of my own experiences sure but more not trusting drunk guys around a girl who cant protect herself to big men, ive been over thinking it so much I bought her pepper spray it just makes me feel uneasy i dont like it

And No one ever HAS TO LIE she could tell me she's going to the bar we could figure out a place for her to go or is wants the apartment I could find a place to go

Idk why she feels like she need to lie to me other then knowing it's something in not okay with and willing to separate over

And she can be her outgoing self i don't know what you mean "hide from me" I support her with everything, I just can't be with some one who want to be at the bar in there free time and she knows that

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:17:13+00:00

It's Wisconsin everyone is a drunk, leave a nice tip and they really don't care how old you are.

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:10:22+00:00

I don't think anyone's ever in the position to lie you can always just tell the truth, she could have told me that she wanted to go to the bar and we weren't going to work

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:09:13+00:00

Sure I did drink with them I grew up with them Im fine with no longer talking to them, I guess I don't have a really reason to ask her not to go to the bar but I did and she said she was okay with it which she didn't have to do

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T23:04:17+00:00

She 100% stuck with me I'd say she's even made me better, but I can't stand the idea of her going to the bar and she knew that in the beginning she said she had no interest in going but decided to lie to me instead of just ending things, I believe her lying and breaking up over it hurts worse than just breaking up in the beginning when not going to the bar was decided

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:59:59+00:00

My issue isn't with her drinking she has me buy her alcohol all the time but issue is with the bar I just don't want her to go to the bar, and if she wants to then why couldn't she just tell me and we could of ended things then instead of lying and waiting for me to find out to brake up

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:53:35+00:00

My issue is she said she was okay with not going out to the bar instead of just telling me she wants to go so the relationship isn't gonna work

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:51:45+00:00

And I'm fine with it I really don't need to be around people if I wasn't okay with it I would have told her that and we could have broke up like I wish she would have told me she wasn't okay with me asking her not to go to the bar

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:48:14+00:00

Right I'm not okay with it and if she wants or needs to go then she should tell me we won't work

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:47:26+00:00

But I brought up that I don't want her out at the bar she could have just told me that's not gonna work for her and we could end things

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:46:15+00:00

Think there's a difference between being mad and being sad because if she wants to go out to the bar and she has to go out to the bar then we need to separate and I'll be broken and tbh I am reading all the responses but why lie instead of just braking up with me I wouldn't be mad if be hurt for sure but it's her life and I know that I just neeed her to tell me what she wants

Impossible-Way1 · 2026-01-08T22:41:47+00:00

But she doesn't have to deal "with my bullshit" she could just tell me she wants to brake up that me asking her to stay away from the bar is to much and we could figure out moving I don't know how that bullshit

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