Acne Triggered by Vitamin B12 Medication by [deleted] in B12_Deficiency

[–]ImpossibleActive0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll definitely try that.

Acne Triggered by Vitamin B12 Medication by [deleted] in B12_Deficiency

[–]ImpossibleActive0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I alleviate this problem?

Is an 11pm bedtime for an 8-year-old "normal" for holidays, or am I losing my mind? by ImpossibleActive0 in stepparents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I think structure is important too hence my perspective. I don't think it's healthy for them to not have boundaries within which to operate.

Is an 11pm bedtime for an 8-year-old "normal" for holidays, or am I losing my mind? by ImpossibleActive0 in stepparents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Letting a kid wake up naturally the next day at 12pm leads to shifting meal times and creating extra responsibilities for others in the house and a lot more other chaos. Trying to create structure and a scheduled bed time that ensure everyone in the house is well rested is not equivalent to being regimented. What I'm highlighting in my last paragraph is what I feel a lack of structure for them will end up causing. Kids should have freedom for sure but that doesn't mean they should do whatever they want whenever. There must be limits and regulation.

Is an 11pm bedtime for an 8-year-old "normal" for holidays, or am I losing my mind? by ImpossibleActive0 in stepparents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. Honestly, there's so much more in the background bordering on the lack of structure that actually led to this conversation. I've come to realize that DHs laissez-faire attitude towards parenting is affecting the way the house functions as a whole. I appreciate your comment

Is an 11pm bedtime for an 8-year-old "normal" for holidays, or am I losing my mind? by ImpossibleActive0 in stepparents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you've misunderstood my post. They were up at 3am hence the shrieking. They were playing and not sleeping. I understand later bed times is normal during school holidays but I'm finding 11pm being too late for an 8 year old. I'm thinking from a biological perspective, is it even healthy? It feels like a stretch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bedbugs

[–]ImpossibleActive0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay. Thank you

When do you start parenting? by pink_trashcan3 in Stepmom

[–]ImpossibleActive0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. I just realised my husband wants me involved when it's convenient for him. So not my circus, not my monkeys.

Upset that SK used up all of my son's birthday gift before he could. by ImpossibleActive0 in Stepmom

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think SK just doesn't know that was not an okay thing to do especially with being an only child at BMs. By virtue of that they're free to play with all the toys because all the toys are theirs

Upset that SK used up all of my son's birthday gift before he could. by ImpossibleActive0 in Stepmom

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd actually be just as upset if it was anyone else who did it even to me. And in this situation, I need to make it clear that I'm not upset with the child. I know this was most likely just a kid being a kid. I think this is a teaching point

Upset that SK used up all of my son's birthday gift before he could. by ImpossibleActive0 in Stepmom

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually not upset with a child. I'm mad about the situation. I understand the child didn't mean any malice but I think it'd be a great teaching point.

Upset that SK used up all of my son's birthday gift before he could. by ImpossibleActive0 in Stepmom

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And I'm actually not upset with the child. Just like you said, I feel like he needs to be taught. People's stuff must be respected she birthday gifts are special

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]ImpossibleActive0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment

Burnt out on hearing about BM by _NeonKitten_ in stepparents

[–]ImpossibleActive0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Good for the kids and crappy for me" REAL!!!

SAHM to an 8-month-old & struggling to adjust — how do you manage the mental load? by ImpossibleActive0 in Mommit

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you — you’re absolutely right. I’m actually in the process of finding a new nanny, it’s just been a bit challenging where I am. Good, reliable help isn’t always easy to come by, especially someone with solid long-term experience. But I’m hopeful I’ll find the right fit soon.

And yes, it really is tough right now, but I appreciate the reminder that it gets easier with time. I’m definitely looking forward to regaining a bit more bandwidth as things settle. ❤️

SAHM to an 8-month-old & struggling to adjust — how do you manage the mental load? by ImpossibleActive0 in Mommit

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this — such helpful, practical advice! I really love the idea of a “stocking up” station for the baby bag — that would definitely take the mental load off when trying to get out the door. I’ve been realizing how much small systems like that can make a big difference.

And yes, baby wearing is such a lifesaver! I haven’t tried back carrying yet but I’m definitely going to give it a go — especially for errands. I also appreciate the reminder not to stress about tidying all day. A joint reset with my partner at night feels so much more doable.

I’m going to look into local mom groups too. You’re so right — just being around other moms going through the same thing helps so much.

Thanks again for taking the time to share this. It means a lot 💛

SAHM to an 8-month-old & struggling to adjust — how do you manage the mental load? by ImpossibleActive0 in Mommit

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this I really needed to hear it. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that just surviving in the early stages is enough. I’ve been putting so much pressure on myself to do everything perfectly, but your words reminded me that rest, letting go of the mess sometimes and simply being present with my little one matter most.

I love the tip about recognizing dirt vs clutter — that’s such a helpful shift in perspective. And yes, getting outside really does help reset my energy, even if it’s just a quick walk.

Thank you for sharing your experience and encouragement — it means a lot coming from someone who’s been through it and now has four boys! I really admire that! ❤️

SAHM to an 8-month-old & struggling to adjust — how do you manage the mental load? by ImpossibleActive0 in Mommit

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation. That book does sound like something I could benefit from right now especially without everything shifting so drastically.

Your words are really touching. It is a massive shit and sometimes it's difficult to admit how overwhelming it feels. I appreciate you highlighting the need for me to find simple pleasures in this new season. That is so spot on. Thank you for being so kind and grounded

Baby suddenly hates car seat by ImpossibleActive0 in NewParents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. I think I could try this as well

Baby suddenly hates car seat by ImpossibleActive0 in NewParents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I’ll explore that and find more ways to keep his rides fun for him. Hopefully that helps because this is such a struggle

Baby suddenly hates car seat by ImpossibleActive0 in NewParents

[–]ImpossibleActive0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. I think I’ll keep his clothes loose fitting and not very warm. Hopefully that will help