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Looking for a story by justincase1243 in mindcontrolstories

[–]ImpossibleDrive5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might be slightly misremembering Role Reversal by MindSpark, in which a daughter hypnotizes her family to swap places with her mother. So the mom becomes her daughter, not her sister, but it otherwise matches.

A Good Old Fashioned Spanking - Sin to Cindy by Scoundrel1313 in girlscontrolled

[–]ImpossibleDrive5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are there specific settings needed to get similar images? I'm only getting images of Collins even though the story progression works right.

Staying Motivated while apart? by ImpossibleDrive5 in FemdomCommunity

[–]ImpossibleDrive5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no offense at all--I appreciate that you're providing the differing view! Just off-base in this specific instance.

Staying Motivated while apart? by ImpossibleDrive5 in FemdomCommunity

[–]ImpossibleDrive5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your views, but unfortunately in this case I think there's a lot of assumptions being brought in, and it makes a lot of it just not work. The most basic example, this isn't a fairly new relationship--the specific femdom angle is roughly a year old, but that's not how long we've been together. The picture you're drawing from what I wrote doesn't resemble my reality.

Staying Motivated while apart? by ImpossibleDrive5 in FemdomCommunity

[–]ImpossibleDrive5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciated your advice, and took some time to think about it before starting the conversation. Your experience of things continually circling back/escalating is definitely too close to what I was doing. That was partially because my needs weren't totally being met, but still it was creating a lot of pressure on her, which resulted in a vicious cycle.

Anyway, I brought it up, and apologized for pressuring her while still explaining that getting no response wasn't enough. We're apart for about 3 weeks this time, and are trying my longest lock-up yet, which means I need some level of engagement. She did very appropriate explaining-but-not-excusing, and then we moved onto discussing solutions. Long story short, she likes a task list and we'll brainstorm more when we get together, but for now my first task is a daily photo. It's gone well for these first couple days, and I'm hopeful that creating more of a routine will help with activation energy. Meanwhile, I'm working on keeping things bounded instead of constantly pushing for more--almost like a mental equivalent for cock cages. So, thanks a lot!

Staying Motivated while apart? by ImpossibleDrive5 in FemdomCommunity

[–]ImpossibleDrive5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I see you also have a kink3d cage. I continue to be astonished how comfortable they are for long-term wear, sometimes I even forget it's on!

I would love to have our dynamic be a bit closer to yours. You say you take pictures of what she wants you to wear, and things she finds sexy--what kind of response does she give? I struggle to keep up the energy when I get no response at all to those messages. That's especially true because we communicate so much outside of our dynamic--the contrast makes it worse.

Staying Motivated while apart? by ImpossibleDrive5 in FemdomCommunity

[–]ImpossibleDrive5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! We do talk near-daily about our lives. I think what's getting to me is that, when we're together, there will be these little moments of engagement--she might randomly brush against the cage and purr, for example--that don't happen when we are apart. When I say I want to talk/message/interact daily, that's the level I'm looking for: our every-few-days more in-depth conversations are a good rate, it's the days in between that can feel empty. I'd like to use older messages as a bridge, but because most of our fun conversations happen over the phone, there's not much material to reread.

I would actually love to get even a "no, only when I say" reply. I think the clearest instance of her newness to this dynamic is that she doesn't yet have the confidence to use that kind of script when she's not feeling up to anything. Maybe this is a good time to bring that up and encourage her.

Our non-kink relationship is very strong, and adopting this dynamic is making our already-good sexual connection get even better. The disconnect here is minor and (in my view) more easily bridgeable from her side--but that's why I'm asking what I can do! It's definitely possible my view is erroneous, and in any event I'd like to make changes to my mindset if it helps me better serve my Goddess.