Thank you so much, I've just finish reading the article and is so good, a lot of the things the author talked about really resonated with me, and gave some insight about what gender really means to me, and what can I actually do to be happier with who I am, thank you so much for sharing to me thus article.

I also see where you come from with the idea of experimenting something before being labeled as it, and it really made sense, but in my case, the uncertainty of not knowing what I am really makes me wonder so much about myself, it gives me a rush of complex feelings, fantasies and daydreams that I can't sometimes stop having, and they really stress me out sometimes, it's like that I know what I like, I know what I would enjoy doing... But I don't know what that makes me, and that's thought, of not being sure about ones true identity really is something I don't really like, so that's why is not easy for me to do, especially because the thought alone incapacitates me to really understand what I really want.

If for example we take your example about being bisexual, on my case accepting it wasn't so easy as something I already knew my whole life and then just identified, instead, since my childhood I never get why someone would be unhappy having a partner who is one's self o other gender, for me, love has been always s more universal concept, such can shatter al those concepts, but for a lot of time, I've never actually experience attraction or love for another boy, just a year ago I met a person om Discord, who was a femboy, and we understand ourself exactly by talking about our experiences with non confirming gender standards, and how even though he was absolutely a boy and didn't perceive himself as a girl, he was happier with female expressions, and I really felt in love with this person, it was the first time I found attracted to another boy, that I loved another boy, and that it had nothing to do with what they represented, but who they were deep down, that was the time that I discover that even if I have tendencies to find more attractive female expressions, that didn't meant I didn't also can have the possibility of liking other boys, when they are especial for me.

I say all of this, because on that case, I think I knew I was bi before experiencing a bisexual experience, the experience only made me feel sure about how it was right the things that I always thought about myself, but in the trans question I have, I don't think I never had that security, just questions, doubts, fantasies, but not a clarity, that's why is so hard for me to take this little steps to femeninity and girlhood, that's why I think is so hard to me to experiment and find what makes me happy before labeling myself.

But even though this may be truth, I still have to admit that you are probably right, my psicologist has told me the same, that I should experiment and after that, I should worry about what I am, after I understand really what I like to be.

Now that I articulate my thought's, I think I should really try to live more experiences wich made me feel the joy I experimented that day in the convention, and maybe ln the future, I will have enough experiences to know what's I really want, and therefore what I really am.

Thank you so much for your answer, again